The Resilience Toolkit

Life is rarely a straight line (it certainly hasn’t been for me) - each of us experiences challenges and moments of uncertainty that test one’s resilience. I refer to resilience in the broadest sense of the term: it’s the ability to recover from setbacks, adapt well to change and keep going in the face of adversity.

At Goldman Sachs, during the month of October we offer an “Americas Resilience Series” during which experts share strategies to enhance overall well-being, increase energy and prioritize both work and personal goals. Throughout my career, I’ve come to realize that the most resilient people are those who take time to learn from failure and, ultimately, emerge stronger. But what does that really mean? Resilience is important, yes, but is it a skill we can get better at, or is it simply innate, something in which some people are naturally gifted? I would argue for the former.

We all face a seemingly unending stream of stress points. And these times we’re living in aren’t exactly easy, either. In addition to personal setbacks, we are faced with unsettling events around the world and devastating natural disasters that shake us to the core. But somehow folks persevere.  The obvious question is how. The answer isn’t simple, and won’t be exactly the same for any two people, but in my view there are some common, crucial elements to building your resilience and working through challenges.

Call it your resilience toolkit. Here’s what makes up mine:

• Find meaning and purpose, beyond your job – find that mission that renews your passion. For me, it’s been about focusing on what I can do for others and giving back to my community. This has always helped to bring perspective into my life. 
• Rely on your support network – no one can do it alone. Asking for help – and accepting it when it’s offered – is a symbol of strength, not weakness.
• Remember failure can be an important part of growth – our setbacks are great teachers. While we don’t have to idolize failure, we don’t have to be afraid of it, either.
• Focus on the things you can control – namely, the way you choose to respond to situations and the attitude you show up with each day.
• Recharge your energy and stay active – even in small ways. Movement is great for both the body and mind. 
• Nurture your relationships – this is the most important one for me. Our happiness stems from the company we keep. Take time to laugh and connect with the people you love and care about.

When you feel buffeted on many sides, rather than retreating into yourself, engage. Reach out to mentors, friends, loved ones; bring them into your world and listen to what they have to say.

And keep adding to your toolkit.