Resilience: forged in tough times, sharpened through pain and fortified in discomfort.
Alex Munford
Father of 5 | Husband | Restaurant Manager | Hospitality Coach | Aspiring Podcaster | Daily Writer | Newsletter Creator | WHY Hospitality Co-founder & creative lead | WHY Leadership author
As anybody who follows my work knows, I enjoy writing about all the things I am currently working on in my own career.
Whether that's training my teams, building a great culture or trying to be a better leader.
I enjoy writing about the mistakes I make each week & the resulting lessons. The challenges and barriers I come up against and the insights gained when tackling them.
The are hundreds of them!
I get asked quite often why I bother to post daily (or thereabouts) online as well as my other commitments. The answer(s) are quite simple.
I feel it gives me room to think. Getting ideas out of my head and into words gives me a sense of clarity and frees up some thinking space. Never underestimate the power of a good brain dump!
It also helps me to consolidate my learning and think through bigger ideas and theories I have.
It's great for brand building. I see posting my thoughts in public as the 'Digitisation of my reputation'.
But mostly, I write on here because I hope to help people. I figure that if I'm facing challenges with certain aspects of the role, then surely someone else must be too? And if I can help that 1 person, then it's 100% worth the time investment.
Over recent weeks I've been in something of a rough patch. The wheels are turning but I can't seem to quite get the momentum going. It's all been sluggish and forced and there are balls dropping everywhere! Everything was due to be published, emailed, submitted or discussed yesterday.
And it's been tough!
But you know what? I'm grateful for it.
I'm a big believer in reaching the limits of what I THINK I can handle and pushing that limit as far as possible. Of pushing so far through my comfort zone it'll never shrink back to what was before. Sure, I'll f*** up. Sure, I'll make more mistakes (learning opportunities) than I normally do.
But in my experience, it builds resilience.
A key skill that is forged in tough times, sharpened through pain and fortified in discomfort.
I see so many bits online these days about the topic of resilience but I''m yet to find anything I 100% agree with. Hence this newsletter - It's quite selfish actually as I'm using it for my own benefit. To gain clarity of thought.
Plus, I f***ing love a definition! Without them, we end up using the same words as each other but meaning different things. And that's just face noise. Totally pointless!
Ahem:
Resilience: Doing hard s*** because it needs doing, and embracing the discomfort.
And, once you're out the other side of the discomfort, you'll never be the exact same person again.
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You begin to realise that growth REQUIRES discomfort.
That progress DEMANDS that tough tasks get done.
I've also observed something else recently too. That the people who reach the top of their profession have many similar skills.
They're all smart. They're all great communicators. They're all great with their teams.
So what separates them?
Their ability to do hard s***.
To do what is REQUIRED.
Not what they would like to, or what they enjoy, or what they think they should do.
They have the ability to will themselves to do what is REQUIRED.
No matter how uncomfortable.
No matter how tough
No matter how they feel about it.
They just do what is required.
Sometimes I wish I was happy with where I am today. With my role, or contribution or any other aspect of life. I wish I was happy being comfortable forever.
But I'll never be that person.
I find joy in the struggle, purpose in the day to day and satisfaction in pain of pushing.
Sure, I've got a long way still to go in my career.
But I can guarantee I wouldn't have made it this far without building that key skill of resilience.
Whenever you're ready, there are 2 ways I can help you:
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11 个月"They have the ability to will themselves to do what is REQUIRED." so true all of this. I think resilience is a skill we learn along the way and are not born with. I think technology limits our opportunity to build resilience, so we have to find other ways to learn it. And I also write on here for the same reasons as you :) Have a lush Sunday Alex Munford