Reprogramming Our Anger Response

Reprogramming Our Anger Response

Scott S. Scott S.

Scott S.

"I listen, understand, and adapt before drawing on 30 years experience to build relationships and solutions."

发布日期: 2016年7月20日
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Stage 1: Anger / fear / blame / shame / evaluation / diagnoses / moral judgement / guilt.

Stage 2: Start by adding SELF EMPATHY. Practice...

Stage 3: Next, add EMPATHY FOR THE OTHER PERSON. Practice... With repetition, the brain begins to see a pattern of "The person did a thing and the typical outcome is to find that they were acting in accordance with their needs/values." So with each repetition of this pattern of "initial defensiveness >>> empathy >>> ah no defense needed" we are training our brains to eventually realize the "initial defensiveness" is not necessary in most situations.

Which - after practice - leads to more often automatically feeling empathy for the other person, not even taking a pit stop at anger.

I'd love to hear what you think. Also, please feel free to spread it around! And, as always, feel free to check out the communication resources I provide at https://www.ClearSay.net.

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