Reparenting through fathering, self-discipline, and new habits that stick [Video]
Emma K. Viglucci, Relationship Therapist (She/Her)
Founder/CEO of MetroRelationship.com | Relationship Expert | Creator of the Successful Relationship Strategy? and Transcendental Relationship Therapy? | Helping Couples create a Radiant & #SuccessfulRelationship
Have you had the experience of wanting to change something in your life but seemingly no matter what you try it seems that you just can’t get the results you are looking for? I have seen this with health and wellness habits, productivity and success habits, and I hear this all the time when couples first come to see us for couples therapy about creating changes in their relationship…?
I find that partners think they try all kinds of things to make changes in their relationship without getting the outcome they are seeking. But even though they might try different things, what’s at the root, the driving mechanisms behind their efforts remain the same… So actually, not that much is being done differently at the end of the day… And they end up feeling stuck.
Their conditioning, programming, and patterning need to be addressed, what’s driving their dynamics, for change to actually happen, AND hold… This can be done in a lot of different ways and through a host of different modalities…?
In June, I usually offer different ways to reprogram, deprogram, decondition, through reparenting but specifically through Fathering in honor of and in celebration of Fathers…
And, as we’ve been at the deconditioning thing for a bit now, I want to offer tackling this from a lighter place to make the work more fun…?
Let’s get to some deconditioning with some Fathering- let’s embrace more structure, systems and routines for the security and discipline we need… But before you roll your eyes, as we are trying to get away from so much structure to begin with and make it more fun, let me share that we won’t be over doing it to where we stifle ourselves and it will be fun…
What we want to do is give ourselves the container of a structure so we can freely flow within it. Eh? More on this in upcoming issues. But for now, let’s focus on chipping away at programs that hold us back from what we want, even our attempt to be more disciplined…?
How? Let’s play with the idea of pattern interruption and make it fun- let’s implement habits that counter our usual habitual (egoic) ways… That force our brain to repattern… Driving home a different way. Writing or brushing your teeth with your opposite from dominant hand. Sleeping on the other side of the bed, or sitting at a different place at the dinner table or couch. You get my drift.?
For more ideas on habits to help us decondition, check out our 30-Days Challenges List!
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Awesome ideas show up in our conversation that can be used for your 30-Day Challenge… Enjoy!
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