Remember to turn the page and move on in life

How do I turn the page quickly? Simple answer is to work on present and prepare for the future. We need to keep distracting yourself from what is keeping you stuck with the past. Firs learn to love yourself and improve yourself and improve your grooming, your health, your knowledge and your self esteem. Try to be a better form of yourself. Be a better son/daughter, a better spouse, a better friend and a better human being first.

You can't start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading the last chapter and when your past calls don't answer it has nothing new to say, move on further. It's just a new chapter in the past but don't close the book just turn the page. When you finally move on from the past, you are freeing up your future for bettering your own self.

Wasting time on thinking about past takes you nowhere and that also makes your present worse which is tomorrow's past. If you make any change in present you can have change in your tomorrow’s past. Therefore stop worrying about past and start working on future and enjoy the present and its all in your brain if you keep struggling it will keep you there itself, if you start moving it would improve your life.

When you're depressed, your thoughts keep trotting down the same old worn paths, and it seems like you're going nowhere. You have to practice a few exercises to prove to your brain/body that you are, in fact, changing. And you won't stop changing even after you're dead. So the way to get going on moving away from the past is to do one thing differently during your day. This is to hop yourself into something new, to open your mind to change.

Make sure the one thing you do that's different is something you can achieve easily but will give you some tangible benefit. Do it every day for at least a month, and then add another one new thing, do that for another month, and keep going. Keep a journal for jotting your progress. One easy thing to do if you're not already doing it is go for a 15-minute walk before noon. You can make the walk longer each day or week until you're up to 30 minutes. The morning light is said to be most beneficial for mood enhancement. Try to walk a different route each day.

You may also need to remove reminders of what is keeping you stuck in the past. In my own case, I had to remove myself from my house that contained many very painful memories as well as some good ones. Some day I'll be able to visit my pictures of my old home and feel the warmth of good memories but now it still hurts. I moved out in 2014. So be aware that it will take time and be patient. Your brain has what's called neural plasticity, meaning it can rewire itself after injury.

Negative thoughts are injurious to the brain, and they arise from emotions that are difficult to handle. It's easy to see how a person can get stuck in a negative feedback loop and spiral downward. Try to acknowledge your emotions and discover what triggers them. If you avoid them by pushing them down or numbing yourself out with substances, they will force themselves on you sooner or later in disproportionate ways, causing further problems.

Emotions can be stirred by external stimuli as well as internal processes happening in your body. You may not be able to change what's happening or the people around you but you can change how you respond to them. You can also attend to what is happening within you. Use your journal to address all of this. Acknowledge what it is and tell yourself you are going to move beyond it. You will be able to when you're ready.

In your journal, explore what thoughts you hear yourself thinking that make you feel sad. And try to change your language from "I am feeling depressed because..." to "I feel sad because..." If you keep thinking "I'm depressed," you will be. You are not the disease, it's something that is happening to you. And you need to discover the causes and root them out. Are the thoughts you're thinking really true? If they contain words like "always" and "never," they probably are not. You may need to get a therapist to help you sort through these thoughts and look at them objectively, especially if you cannot find a reason for your sadness; you may also need medication but only a professional can tell you this.

When you have a good day, focus on what made you feel better, and record that in your journal. Look at what's in your diet and whether there are things you can change to help you feel better in your body. Make gradual changes, don't go on any fad diets.

People become concerned when those they care about sleep too much because of depression, but when you look at depression as an illness like a severe case of flu, of course it makes sense to sleep more to give your body/brain a chance to recover and reroute its wiring. Keeping with the metaphor of the worn path, when we're recovering from depression, we need to let those paths become overgrown so that thought impulses cannot go down them so easily.

Some people have been able to use meditation to reroute their thought processes; others need medication to help do this. Meditation can be done in many different ways. You can go to a meditation class or you can engage in activities that are meditative in themselves. If you are able to do strenuous exercise, you know that there is little else you can think of while you're exercising. This is key: to not be aware of thoughts in your head, to achieve quiet instead of the punishing thoughts that keep you sad.

Some days if all you can do to stop thinking painful thoughts is to sleep, then that's what you should do. Don't let people make you feel ashamed for needing to nap. You may need to shut such people out of your life while you heal if they cannot understand and be patient with what you need to do. This may add to your depression for a bit but keep in mind that other people can change, too, and even the best friendships wax and wane. You need to give yourself priority. Good friendships will survive even the worst depression.

We dwell on past events when we perceive that we have lost something. Look at what you've lost, how you lost it, and determine honestly whether you could have done something to prevent the loss. If you could, then you can forgive yourself and resolve to learn the lesson regarding the loss and change your behaviour so you don't incur further losses. If you could not prevent the loss, you must give yourself time to grieve and let go but resolve not to cut yourself off from the life process.

As we grow old, we will lose many things and people dear to us, but we must focus on what we still have and do what we can to care for that. This is why we have ceremonies such as funerals. Even weddings and seemingly happy celebrations contain some piece of letting go as they mark a life transition where someone, while gaining one thing, is losing another. In these ceremonies, we have our community around us for support, to maintain our connection to our humanity and the life process. Make sure you open up to sympathetic friends and family to let them know what's going on with you.

Episodes of loss remind us that nothing stays the same and we must appreciate what we have now. You may want to find a way to honour your loss, such as creating a memory book of things related to what you used to have that is now gone. Try to focus on what was good and how it made you stronger. But when you close the book, make a promise to yourself to create new memories. Stay blessed! #kishoreshintre