Remember those hands which helped you

Once there was a rich man,who had three beautiful daughters.The daughters used to fight with each other for sill matters.One day they fought as to who had the most beautiful hands?. This rich man had a gardener who also had a daughter. She used to smile at their silly bickering. One day she was helping her father in their garden when they fought among themselves, to decide who’s hand was most beautiful. That time an old woman came there and asked for some food.The three daughters of the rich man who were deciding, as to who was having most beautiful hand, shooed her off, but the gardeners daughter quickly opened her lunch and shared it with the old lady.

She also brought for her some water to drink.When the old lady finished her food, she turned into the most beautiful women. In fact she was a garden fairy who came to test the three vain daughters of the merchant.They were really surprised to see such a beautiful lady talking to poor gardener’s daughter. When the three haughty daughters came towards the Lady she told them that even though, their hands were outwardly beautiful it was the poor gardener’s daughter’s hand which was more beautiful than theirs,because her hands were ever ready to share and help the needy, even though she didn't have to conclude a helping hand is one that extend help to the needy, irrespective of ones circumstances.

Have you seen that it is always helpful to have someone with you to walk with you as there are many benefits or having someone to talk to and for support. Social Support: Whenever you feel stressed, talk to someone, speak out your mind. Talking your problems may not resolve them, but surely will help you get the right perspective to go through that situation. It has been found from researches that, decluttering yourself reduces stress level.

Talk to yourself: Sometimes talking to someone also does not work, as we need to talk to our own self. It is a normal behaviour that we tend to avoid stress and think everything will be okay. You should take out sometime and discuss the situation with your own self, think about your situation and ways to overcome through that. Try to find out the solution to your problem. You can also start with writing a diary and write down whatever you feel, this is also a great way of introspection.

Helps gaining new perspectives: A lot of times we tend to look at a situation in an unhealthy manner. There are times when we’re so sure about the fact that there’s no other way to deal with a situation and hence we end up reacting negatively towards it. But when you talk to some other person about it, many a times the other person will help you look at that situation in a different manner. He/she would help you look at the situation with a different perspective which might be positive in nature.

Sharing them to another person also makes you consider what their view is, meaning you can gain new ways of thinking about your problems, simply by letting them out. In some cases, people discover that their worries or anxieties aren’t really founded on any real cause for concern or that what they thought was a very serious issue was, in fact, nothing at all to worry about – this can be a huge relief.

Decreased feeling of loneliness: Often people feel unable to share their feelings and issues with the people in their life, and quite often with those closest to them. Having someone who is a complete stranger, who doesn’t know you and won’t judge you, can give you the freedom to talk about things you wouldn’t normally admit to your friends and family. This is hugely helpful in making people feel less alone and isolated in their suffering, especially if you’ve had something on your mind that you’re too embarrassed to discuss with people who know you.

Coping up with everyday life: Sometimes we fail to realise that even minor issues could hamper our daily life. The daily hassles in an individual’s life makes it stressful for him which could lead to disturbed relations in personal and work life. This is where talking to someone and clearing your mind about it helps. Talking to someone about it could help you realise how to manage both, your work and personal life effectively. Knowing you can rely on someone to listen to your problems, frees them of worrying about their problems all the time, meaning they can focus on living their lives again. This often produces a virtuous cycle, as being able to focus on everyday life means people make positive changes in their life, which in turn lifts their mood.

Releases Stress: When facing a problem, talking is helpful to take some of the weight off of your shoulders and give your thoughts a voice. The feelings and negative thoughts which are bottled within a person tends to make them feel stressful. Once these thoughts are shared with some other person, a sense of relief is felt. Sharing the burden: Having that one person that you confide in, who listens to you, relieves you of always shouldering the burden of your emotions. It’s quite common for emotions that are bottled up to have lasting effects on your mood and behaviour, and long-rooted issues can be the main cause of all kinds of worries. If you’re struggling to process your emotions and this is affecting your daily life, talking to someone can help.

Improve your physical well-being: Often when we talk about stress, we usually talk about our mental and emotional problems. We tend to ignore the fact that our physical well-being should be equally balanced too. Some of the benefits people get as a result of talking are mainly more energy, sounder sleep, a better appetite. This often has a knock-on effect, making people more active, which can elevate feelings of positivity. The other side of this coin is the simple benefit of spending time in close proximity to other people which, especially for those feeling lonely, can have a hugely comforting effect.

Cathartic Experience: Similarly, letting things out that you’ve been keeping inside can be a cathartic experience, purging you of pent up emotions, as many people find they are relieved of thoughts or feelings that they’ve been bottling up. Such a release often feels like a weight off the mind and allows people to begin to let go of feelings they’ve been holding on to. It is always recommended that you should keep calm and then think about the situation and how to deal with it. Because you can’t think rationally when you’re tensed or angry because your judgement towards the situation can vary because of your emotions.

Greater sense of self-awareness: Examining your emotions with another person allows you to see yourself from the outside, resulting in a heightened sense of self-awareness. And once processed, this can have hugely beneficial effects in making people feel more at peace with themselves. With a boost in self-esteem confidence automatically follows. Cheers!