Relationships are a two way street

Let's get to the core of most plots shared by married couples.

• No one is happily married. The initial passion fades away and you end up bickering for the rest of your lives.
• The key to surviving marriage was to have low expectations—very low expectations.

WELL?

Counsel of this kind could berate this connection further with a lack of responsiveness on our part. Instead of feeling stuck in our relationship what will you start doing when you start feeling committed. It is so important to follow what does this marriage mean to you and as we keep evolving revisit the plot.

Why does this matter so much?

As a parent I learned safety is the primary language of love. Our children are always looking for a secure environment. It’s our responsibility to create that space.?As parents how we treat each other as partners is important too. Interestingly in our busy lives of instant gratification one could miss recognising this factor.?Given our children model our behaviours, we are the earliest influences, I saw merit in recognising…

The 3 Daily Rituals That Stop Spouses from Taking Each Other for Granted

1) The most important moment in your marriage is the moment of reunion—it’s how you greet each other. If you consistently greet each other well, you will look forward to seeing each other. If you are inconsistent about how you greet each other, you can lose that sense of excitement. If you criticize each other at the moment of reunion, you can become fearful of seeing each other.

2) Set aside two minutes of undistracted communication every day.

Two minutes of undistracted communication can be more important than spending a whole unfocused week together as a couple.?

3) Practice an appreciation ritual every day.

Sadly, couples tend to take the good in each other for granted very quickly—and can even stop noticing the good that the other is doing—while focusing more and more on the petty failings of the other.

Most couples allow their marriages to decay slowly over time, often without realizing it. Daily rituals keep the sense of connection strong in marriage and assure that romance, affection and appreciation are a part of your married life every day. In the early years of my marriage I didn't recognise the relevance that it takes everyday work, moment to moment awareness, my comfort was I married the man I dated, I know him well. We know each other well. But you learn it's about staying curious about knowing the person everyday. My lessons, experiences also led me to strengthen my connection with the divine, it didn't happen overnight but that can be a topic by itself for another day for now.

Let's take note of the fact.

It takes a mindful person to make that difference. Get off your AUTO-PILOT Mode. Recognise that you being exhausted in the relationship doesn’t mean you are ungrateful. It means that you need to make some shifts so all parties involved get their needs met.?Get comfortable about having uncomfortable conversations, a lot started to change when I included this in my belief set.

YOU got this.?

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