Relationships are fragile like glass

Relationships between people are valuable assets that we form with bonds of love and care and any attempt to break this bond causes cracks in the middle which can't be easily filled up. Forgiveness can be a powerful thing but I do believe that once you break someone’s wholehearted trust (the first time), that things do become rather different in terms of the relationship. Most people won’t take being hurt too kindly - particularly with emotional pain because it is something that tends to linger around.

It takes a real sense of maturity for someone to be in a position that they can actually forgive without becoming spiteful. Usually it is only someone who can understand what a tragedy remorse can be. With that being said, of course things won’t be the same but that’s the beauty of relationships, some can be fruitful and grow through empathy. While some may fall into vicious cycles of revenge and destruction.

You will always have a little Caution in the back of your mind. You've been hurt and you don't want to be hurt again. If you're the one who calls the mistrust then you have to be completely open and honest about everything . Being defensive just makes that other person start to mistrust you again. Trust for any relationship is like a piece of diamond, beautifully fixed on the top of a solitaire ring.

It's essential; it's beautiful; it's critical for the ring to be called a solitaire. Since it's a diamond, it shouldn't break irrespective of any impact. But then, somehow it falls and breaks. You may mend it and fix it back on the ring, but would you ever believe again that it's a diamond? Even if you still chose to wear it, each moment of your life thereon you would realise that it's only a piece of glass and you have been cheated. ‘Trust is not a piece of glass; it's a diamond until it breaks and is exposed to be fake.’

No body trusts another person completely, so when you break trust, chances are that you might loose your trust completely or just to a scale where it is not as high as before you broke the trust, depending on the mind set of the person. For instance, some people start hating immediately, some will still be like showing forgiveness or asking for reasons why you did that and all. Yes, broken trust can be restored but the strength of this restored trust surely will not be as strong as the previous broken trust.

Trust has to be earned and it sounds like it is lost. Now your only alternative is to earn the trust again but that’s a long and slow process. Little by little trust gets restored but not fully. There will now always be that little doubt of your honesty, suspicion of your true intentions regarding your relationship. That’s if they will even give you the chance to earn their trust in you. If they refuse to give you a second chance just leave them alone. They owe themselves more then guy who can’t be trusted. Go on to use the memory of your fuck up in the future to ensure you don’t repeat the offense.

If the trust is ruined it will take time to repair this relationship, you would have to talk about why this happened and where each person sees the relationship moving forward. There must be a discussion, accountability, why did whatever happen, then it is a matter of building back that trust in each other, letting the other person know where you both are, who with and be able to trust again. Until you get a chance to see what is the real thing that you have put your trust in your mind is going to make you feel everyone lies even if a person lies it’s not like they lie to you.

If you’re a person who they love and tell them everything you need to trust them really even if they turn their back off to everyone else but it you they only love and how you feel about lies. Maybe you could have put your guard up on them and you don’t have to. ’ve learned the hard way that once trust is broken in the relationship it will never be fixed. You’ll always be wondering what your partner is doing, who they are with, where they are, if they are lying, cheating or stealing. I know it hurts but the best thing to do is keep your self respect and walk away. Cheers!