Relationships and curiosity….

A new relationship is owners pride a beautiful happening in one’s life. The malfunction starts when the relationship turns older. There are two ways to look at it one where with less words more happen and another where we speak only to hurt. Only when there is a need to communicate we feel the need to form a relationship. However debatable it may sound but the freshness has to remain intact without a second thought.

My great fortune I was a part of the journey in my life time and traversed both these paths. One was a beautiful woven love story of unspoken words and meaningful conversations with a lot of respect. The relationship was a need for both these individuals the spark was alive and the lameness to fall in love at the drop of a hat was there. If there is no foolishness then there is a serious problem because we tend to forget to flirt with each other.

The other was manipulation where words were spoken to impress. At first it felt like music to ears but that could not stand the test of times and dwindled down. Philosophy and poetry both are dangerous and known only to those who rehearse them. Experience suggests that if the onlooker is unable to understand it should be left there something like an arts student is trying to understand the logarithmic mathematics. Communication is a two way street and with poetry and philosophy both have to be at par rather than one trying to superimpose on the other.

Little did I know that someone well versed in English language should not make a false attempt to plot to fall for Russian language. The sweetness in excess always becomes bitter similarly there is no point in trying to understand when one does not have the complete knowledge. Its a dangerous plain and often people get humiliated and hurt.

I too had been a prey to the gimmicks of this path of relationship. While I was trying to dive into the throes of philosophy due to the significant other when I was quite lame. Fascinating it was to hear the stuff when it’s new and I respected it but over period of time you just cannot cope. In recent times it was clear to me that out of experience and only when you lived it in your life the meaning is beautiful and enriching else they are mere words.

Impressive these talks are at nascent stages but as we step into the relationships it’s like talking Greek and latin. The ask to such impressions are simple you have to keep being a people pleaser and let the other know how brilliant of them to lecture you. While it sucks for real at times quite irrelevant but we are tight lipped out of courtesy. I debated it long enough and went through the sheer stupidity of listening the same old crass without complain. I was trying not to hurt and I was a people pleaser to be honest.

The reality in you will find its way out. I blurted “I don’t want to be lectured again… it’s damn boring”. The reason for this audacity is the disrespect meted out to me in the form of looking down upon me and my na?veté… The language was different we are here to have conversations if at all the need be and not be advised because however similar we might look we are unique with our unique past and memories. The curious nature in a relationship helps it to deepen the bonds. The lightness of a relationship keeps it alive and refreshed….

Respect out of inquisitiveness and curiosity in a relationship is real and going to stay..… otherwise we have fizzled relationships which are plenty many…. Happy Coaching!!!

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