The Relationship You Give a Shit About

I am running another FREE live Webinar this week, Wednesday 10th April at 7PM UK, 2PM EST and so today I wanted to talk around some of the issues that people are going through right now in their relationships.

Perhaps you are one of them.

Two common things your not doing in your relationship

You're Not Being Honest!

Yep you heard me.........and I don't want to hear....errrrr Mel I'm always honest.....because you KKNNOW that isn't true.

Honesty is one of my top Core Values and I WASN'T being honest in my life or in my relationship for MANY years.

Lets get real.

• We are not honest because we are scared of the perceived outcome of being honest.
• We are not honest because we are trying to protect other people, especially our partner and kids.
• We are not honest because we don't know what we ACTUALLY want and so we don't even know what the truth is.
• We are not honest because we are scared of being alone.

There are loads more reasons why we all lie, or withhold the truth (and yes that's lying too).

In this short time we are sharing right now I invite you to start thinking about all of the areas in your life where you are not being FULLY honest right now.

Yes yes I know, your stomach just sank.

But come on........ if you cannot be honest with yourself, even if in your own mind then what chance do you have of living a life of integrity? A life you give a shit about? Have a partner that means the absolute world to you and supports you in everything you do?

You Don't Know What The Hell You Want

Yes you heard me, and if you do then why are you reading this newsletter right now?

Everyone is guilty of not spending ANY or ENOUGH time on thinking about what they truly want.

And I am not referring to:

• Get Education
• Get good job
• Get married
• Have a family
• Retire with enough for a comfortable life

I am talking about what the TRUE YOU really wants. Not what your parents wanted, or what your friends want, what society has told you is 'the norm' (I'm sorry what the fuck is the norm anyway?)

Just take yourself back to when you were a kid, and remember what you wanted to be, the activities that you loved and had you belly laughing, the dreams you created all those years ago.

This is where you can start.

This is how you can start to remember WHO you TRULY are.

And just for shits and giggles, when you have an hour, get a big piece of paer and start writing down all the things you remember from back then - all the good stuff I mean.

Just keep going, cuz once you start it allows your creativity to flow. And see what comes out!!

You might be amazed, you might be pleasantly reminded.....and........you might just see how far off your path of alignment you are.

And thats a good thing!

Because when you start to see who you are through the eyes of your child and see the contrast you have created in your life up to this point........guess what?........ you get to change it.

Relationship Reflection for Today

If you're not engaging in at least 3 of these in your relationship right now, perhaps you need to do some serious reflection.

?? Genuine Emotional Sharing - Are you holding back on baring your soul?Pent up emotions don't do anyone or any relationship any good!

?? Heartfelt Understanding - When was the last time you truly resonated with your partner's emotional experience, rather than merely nodding along? When we have a profound understanding of their inner world it does create a much deeper connection.

?? Empathetic Support - Can you genuinely feel your partner's struggles, or are you silently beating the drum of yours? If you don't want to be a support ask yourself why.

?? Respectful Communication - Are your conversations an entangled mess of misunderstandings and unresolved tensions? Perhaps you could practice communicating with grace and openness, honouring each other's perspectives.

?? Shared Emotional Moments - Do you recall the last time you shared a moment of genuine emotional intimacy with your partner? If you can't then perhaps you need to give yourself a check up from the neck up!

?? Acts of Emotional Kindness - Are you expressing love and appreciation through subtle gestures that speak directly to their soul? Small acts of kindness can seriously nurture the bond between you and your partner (especially if that's their love language).

If your relationship feels adrift emotionally, this is an invitation to either rekindle your connections........or.............if reading those made you feel sick or sad or like you are WAAAY past the point of no return then perhaps its time to ask yourself another question.

As I always say...........life is FAAAARRRRRR to short to waste it on people who are not your vibe (maybe never have been) and never will be........no matter how many times you bang your head against that brick wall!!

It's not all doom and gloom my friend.

If you feel like life and your relationship is not what you want right now, you can do something about it......and take it from one thats been there..........

.............the other side is soooooo much better than where you are right now.

If that resonated for you please register for my free live event:

"How to go from feeling trapped or unfulfilled in your relationship to true love, purpose and passion"

on Wednesday 10th April at 7PM UK / 2PM EST right HERE

“Sometimes it takes a heartbreak to shake us awake & help us see we are worth so much more than we're settling for.”

- Mandy Hale : The Single Woman: Life, Love, and a Dash of Sass -

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