Relationship to Self
Martin Kettelhut, PhD - Clarity Catalyst
To fulfilling even more of your truth
Welcome back from the Holidays. How were the last two weeks for you?
Because your outer world is a reflection of what’s inside, let’s start the year by exploring your relationship to self.
Hit <Reply> and respond to these three questions.
- How well did I nurture myself over the Holidays, regardless whether I was with/serving others or alone? (on a scale from 1 to 10, where 1 means ‘I barely nurtured myself’ and 10 means ‘I was constantly nurturing myself’).
- Which one or two words best describe how I treated myself over the Holidays? (e.g.: neglect, indulgent, curious, patient, harsh, gentle, frustration, play, despondence, critical, wise…)
- How clear am I about what I’m committed to in 2021? (on a scale from 1 to 10, where 1 means ‘I’ll just keep surviving,’ and 10 means ‘I have a written plan for growth, and am in action’).
Your relationship to yourself is that place inside where you might not even need words to explain. It’s where love and gratitude for your life lives, where curiosity and wonder arise.
You need a relationship to yourself, a sacrosanct connection to the unique way you feel about what’s going on, and about the way you personally want to deal with things. Without a solid relationship to yourself, you are like a leaf that has fallen off the tree on a winding day. You’ll get swept into a pile you don’t want to be part of, you’ll be blown down a dark alley, you’ll get admired by a passerby in one moment and bagged for compost the next.
In what ways are you living the life you intended, and in what ways are you not? What’s the gap?
How are you being the kind of person you intend, and how are you not? What appears to be in the way?
Look especially closely at how you relate to yourself around suffering. Life is suffering, after all. It’s also joyful and peaceful. What’s the umbrella relationship-to-self under which you navigate emotions (good or bad)?
Societal forces keep you changing your looks, changing your affiliations, your tools, your attitude, change change change. Change is inevitable. Change of what sort, though? When change is in order, then it must come from, and point back to, your relationship to self. Otherwise, it’s just change for the sake of change.
Starting Wednesday January 13th at 1:00 PM Mountain, GROWTH: A WEEKLY PEER GROUP FORUM FOR ENTREPRENEURS AND EXECUTIVES will meet on https://us02web.zoom.us/j/3543477822 to share challenges and insights in personal and business growth. I will facilitate the conversation, using distinctions from Spiral Method (https://www.spiralmethod.com).
This is a Mastermind group, where our combined intelligence and experience creates a wisdom far beyond any individual's. Come prepared to tell the group about issues you’d like feedback on, and bring your best listening skills to contribute to others.
This is an opportunity for us to guide and encourage each other to grow from and toward your relationship to self (your values, purpose and aspirations). Bring a friend. RSVPs appreciated: [email protected].
If you didn’t yet, <Reply> to i, ii, iii above. Thank yourself for doing so!
Yours truly,
Martin Kettelhut, PhD
303 747 4449
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