No Relationship is Perfect

All relationships, even the best ones, have hard challenges within them. Another common mistake is that people think relationship smoothness is a measure of a soulmate. This is not the case at all. Even soulmate relationships will have rocky points to overcome.

Chemistry is the deep driver of soul mates. However, chemistry isn’t always equal! Just because you feel a deep chemistry for one person doesn’t mean the chemistry is balanced and equal in return.

If a person doesn’t have equal chemistry back towards you, your advances will only push them away. So in addition to trusting your senses, your need must examine how the other person responds to your attention.

Don’t only concentrating on your physical chemistry. Physical chemistry can be so powerful that it overwhelms a person. So much so you don’t pay attention to the chemistry of the mind or spirit.

A strong physical chemistry will be enough to keep two people together for 2 to 7 years. Longer lasting relationships also require spiritual (direction) and the mind (your stories) chemistries to be in sync also for two people.

So what is a soulmate? Nowhere are we taught in western culture what soulmate is 100%:

Understand your definition may not fit your partner’s definition. If you each hold different ideals of a soulmate, that is enough to break two people apart from being life partners. Some people don’t even think soul mates exist.

A soul mate is a person who you connect to without even needing to speak. A soulmate will help you grow even if it means losing you. A life partner shares in kindness and non-judgment, but they are one of the few people we will trust with judgment.

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Thank you …Soulmate Chemistry

Chemistry is what makes or breaks two people as being soul mates. To use an analogy, a relationship requires connection and current to work.

Like a fuse, each type of chemistry carries 10 amps of the relationship load. So Body, Mind, and Spirit altogether carry 30 amps of relationship load. 

An average relation runs on 8 to 16 amps of current. Most people do get by with lighter relationship connections. However, a soulmate is a 24 amp relationship. It requires all three chemistries to be strong and vibrant.

When people try to push a relationship to be deeper than the chemistry isn’t strong enough to support then relationship burns out.

This is why personal growth is so important in finding soul mates. We all have issues; issues can disrupt chemistry and how strong of a relationship we can hold in life. Timing includes taking the time to improve oneself and be in a stronger position later in life to support a deeper life partner connection.

Finally, a soulmate is a person we are mated to with a deep and honest sexual connection also.

It’s the mate aspects of soul mate where people often fall short. Since in reality, people try to force a person into a soulmate relationship before they know if they have a good sexual connection.

Once sex is added to the equation, at times, it falls apart. When this is the case, you have a different type of relationship. The simple truth is our culture doesn’t understand there is a slightly simpler level of soulmate called Soul Companion.

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Not every potential soul companion you come across will become a soul companion. It all depends on timing, conditions and other factors at the moment of meeting.

Once you have taken the time to be your own person and grow. It improves the chances of your soul companion noticing you. After you have learned to be aware and not just react. It improve your chances of spotting a soul companion.

It takes both of you to connect and for awareness of what that connection means for the process to begin truly. Once you have become patient, it improves the odds that conditions will be right to embrace your soul companion fully.

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Finding Your Life Partner.

The first truth in how to find your life partner is to understand the nature of a soulmate. It’s strange, but most people don’t sit down to figure out what a soulmate is.

As a result, people often force the wrong person into fitting the soulmate mold. If you want to know how to find your life partner, then you need to actually “know,” rather than wing it in understanding what a soulmate is.

Many people are running around trying to find a life partner, thinking they will automatically feel their soulmate, simply by how effortless it will be or by the intense connection they will feel.

Well, this isn’t how to find your life partner and not true at all. Unfortunately, our biology will often trick us into feeling another is a soulmate by focusing you in on the mate aspects of a relationship.

Our species does desire to continue onward, and as a result, biological chemistry can blind two people into falling into love for a shorter relationship for purposes of having children.

A soulmate is more than just physical chemistry; it includes mind (our stories) and spiritual (our flow) chemistry also. However, at the beginning of many relationships, physical chemistry does tend to have the most powerful vote of the three aspects of our nature.

Physical chemistry is only enough to get two people seven years along in their relationship (Hence the 7-year itch). To make the distance of 20 or more years, you truly need mind, body, and spirit all to agree on the chemistry.

Additionally, relationships with soul mates are still a relationship. All relationships have issues, even the best ones. A soulmate relationship might have fewer problems than most relationships, but even a soulmate relationship will have its challenges.

At different points of life, we look for different attributes to compliment us. Psychologically we change quite a bit in our maturing process every seven to nine years. As a result, the advice to find a soulmate does vary depending on where we are in life.

Understand the variations of how we perceive and match to our soul partners over time does factor into how to find your soulmate.

By the way, I am wearing the smile you gave me.!