The relationship with no name ....
She flirts with you, goes out on dates with you, but doesn’t give the relationship a name.
Both of you may be intensely attracted to each other, but she still calls you a good friend even as all your friends wonder what’s going on.
A girl that really loves you will accept you just the way you are. She’ll fall in love with your flaws.
She’ll never try to change you, unless you want her to.
So basically if any girl is about to leave you for acting like you feel (even if it means being emotionally weak), then you may let her go. She isn’t worthy of your time.
If you’re in a complicated relationship with a girl who behaves like your girlfriend, but doesn’t want to date you, you’re definitely getting led on.
Do you wonder why a few girls behave this way? The reasons can be plentiful.
It could be that the girl who’s leading you on probably likes you, but she needs more time to make up her mind about whether she really wants to date you. She may just be confused right now. Or, she’s just not ready for commitment but she’s not quite sure how to tell you.
In most cultures in India, a marriage is considered as being more than just sacred. At least it used to be in my parents’ generation. They all got married and they stayed married.
?The secret?
Societal pressures.
Such type of bonds are toxic. You routinely see a man (almost always a man) or a woman as being aggressive to show who the boss around the house is. The person who ends up getting affected are the kids, who then grow up to repeat this vicious cycle.
I know you didn’t mean “marriage”, but a relationship also needs a strong level of commitment. Basically, a commitment is diving off the deep end. You share the happiness in each other’s strengths, and the troubles with your weaknesses.
I see a relationship as something that should make you better in most ways. An emotionally weak person has no firm grip on transformation. A fragile ego would crash and burn every argument. It could be through tears, punching the wall, calling your mom, passive avoidance, or worse, physical abuse. You would react to slights, discourage communication, have high expectations, and carry a lot of cultural stereotypes.
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Thank you ….Let me ask you the same question-
Would you stay if your partner was emotionally weak?
Would you grind your teeth and go through day after day taking the mental turmoil?
And for what?
Love?
Honor?
Culture?
Is there anything that compensates for wasting your limited years being mentally drained?
If you believe you are emotionally weak and struggling…fight it. Practice being stronger. Go for therapy. Read books on being a rounded individual. Be assertive —Not sensitive or aggressive— but just the right amount of assertion. Every relationship is a gentle balance of being assertive VS compromising.
You have to practice to have that wisdom.
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And with time, you will get better and most girls won’t just pack their bags and run out the back door. Btw leaving doesn’t just suck for you. If she leaves because you couldn’t hold your fort, she carries that guilt for all her life. Let’s not put us through that.
As a guy, it’s probably hard to admit to yourself that you might have been missing come-ons from interested women.
Surely, if a girl was interested in you, you would know it. Right?
Well it turns out, according this study, a man’s brain just isn’t wired to see many of the subtle and unusual signals women send.
The NIMH study found that men confused romantic signals of interest with signals of friendship 70% of the time.
And also just the opposite – men confused signals of friendship from a woman, such as a type of smile she gives, as signs of romantic interest.
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This leads to all sorts of serious problems, like guys just blatantly walking away from women who are trying to show they are interested.
Usually, this just leaves the woman confused – either that, or she just assumes you don’t like her back.
This also causes increased rejection. Because men typically confused “friendship signs” with “romance signs” it causes a lot more guys to get embarrassed or turned down.
This discovery is a breakthrough for guys, because it allows you to drastically cut down on the amount you get rejected and have a way clearer awareness of which women are interested – women you’re probably missing out on now.
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People make eye contact for many different reasons, but if a woman is making eye contact with you, it’s best to play it safe and assume she likes you. The risk of letting her walk out of your life is too big to take.
If you’re engaged in a conversation, then the level of eye contact she keeps can show how interested she is. If she’s always looking around or at her phone, then it’s a sign she could be trying avoid a conversation with you.
In a busy place like a bar, club or party, a girl will put herself close to you if she’s interested. Women are much less likely to strike up a conversation than a man. Instead women make themselves “available.” They put themselves in a position in which they can be noticed and easily approached.
For example, she may move or stand somewhere closer to you in hopes that you’ll talk to her. She’s trying to make life easy for you to increase her odds. If you see a girl come up next to you at a bar and order a drink, it may be more than just a coincidence. Keep your eyes out for these opportunities.
If you’re already getting to know each other, then you might see a girl naturally touch your hand, shoulder or chest. If you’ve just made a joke, she may playfully (and lightly) slap you.
Also, if you’re sitting next to each other, there’s a chance that your legs or shoulders naturally begin to touch just because of how close you’re sitting together. If this happens and she seems ok with it, then it’s a good sign.
Finally, women also sometimes touch you or bump into men “by accident” to get noticed in a crowded place like a party.
What do you do when a girl shows interest in you, dates you, and still doesn’t want to call you her boyfriend?
That’s a rather big predicament, isn’t it?
After all, falling in love is supposed to be a happy experience, not a confusing one. But every now and then, there comes a time when you unintentionally fall in love with a girl who seems right, but is completely wrong for you. The key is to recognize the signs she’s leading you on and just pretending to love you.
Are you in love with a girl who blows hot and cold, who behaves like your girlfriend at times and snubs you like you’re a nobody at other times when she doesn’t need you? You’re probably giving your heart away to a girl who could just be toying with you, because she feels like it!
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2 年Are you reading the signs wrong? Girls are a lot more touchy-feely than guys, and there’s a very good chance that you may be misunderstanding that friendly touch for a flirty touch. After all, there’s only a veiled line separating flirty friends and mixed signals. It’s a secret relationship A few of her friends may know you are close to her, or are on the verge of dating, but none of her friends have any idea that something’s even going on between you. It’s a secret relationship and she wants to keep it that way. Basically, she’s keeping YOU a secret – how do you really feel about that? Not so great, huh? She wants to be closer. When you give her the space because she’s being distant, she immediately changes her behavior and starts craving for your attention when you back away. She tries to keep in touch with you and calls you often just to win your attention back. She claims to have dated very few guys. Probably, she tells you she’s been in very few relationships too. But that’s probably because she leads on most guys she dates and doesn’t like calling them her ex-boyfriends. If you know she’s dated a particular guy before but she claims they were just friends, she’s definitely leading you on too!