On the Relational Side: Some deconditioning, evolving and adulting to do this year-end…

We dream of meeting the love of our life. We start dating. We fall in love. And then we think about how to move forward with the relationship, without necessarily giving much thought to the practical side of things. Or we do but ignore any seeming incompatibilities or red flags because we love our partner.

We yearn to get the ring if we are the woman or more feminine-energy partner in the relationship as we value closeness and togetherness. But the man or more masculine-energy partner is more cautious as they value their freedom and individuality or separateness.

This might create friction for the couple and so they embark in a dynamic around their level of commitment … The focus might become so pervasive that they might not properly explore their desires, expectations , and compatibility enough.

They bank on their attraction, attachment, and love not realizing that these are mostly driven by unconscious and subconscious programming …

If the partners don’t have sufficient personal awareness and if they are under social pressure to get married or find their person plowing through regardless of redflags, they might be setting themselves up for a very challenging relationship and heartache. Their future might become bleak.

It is important for the partners to take their time doing their own personal development work, to really learn each other , and get on the same page, even do premarital sessions, to make sure they set themselves up for a successful relationship and to start their marriage right …

They are to get a clear understanding of what they each desire from each other, the relationship, and the life they want to create. So they can chart their course from the beginning to avoid undo stress, headaches, and any misalignments later.

They can have a vision of the life they want to create and a plan for how to go about it. This can be fluid and of course can change overtime, but at least they start off on shared ground and with shared goals and dreams.

This helps them map out their course and put in place any practical legal, financial and other matters needed to ensure as smooth of a Journey as possible. The Journey then becomes about the Journey , and the partners don’t get distracted by any noise they might experience because they were not intentional about how they set up their life…

Regardless of what stage of relationship you are in, have a chat with your Lovey about dreams, goals, expectations, plans, and the practical of life to make sure you are or get on the same page and create the relationship and life you love.

Happy Chatting!

Check out the NEWEST "Successful Relationship with Emma" Podcast Episode "Legal Matters of the Heart, from Prenups to Divorce, and Beyond (Ep. 27)" - with Guest Leona Krasner, Esq., MBA ! It includes a video!

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