Rejection in life never ends: professionally, romantically, & friendship wise.

Rejections are the most common emotional wound we sustain in daily life.

Our risk of rejection used to be limited by the size of our immediate social circle or dating pools.

Today, thanks to electronic communications, social media platforms and dating apps, each of us is connected to thousands of people, any of whom might ignore our posts, chats, texts, or dating profiles and leave us feeling rejected as a result.

In addition to these kinds of minor rejections, we are still vulnerable to serious and more devastating rejections as well.

When our spouse leaves us, when we get fired from our jobs, snubbed by our friends, or ostracized by our families and communities for our lifestyle choices, the pain we feel can be absolutely paralyzing.

Whether the rejection we experience is large or small, one thing remains constant — it always hurts, and it usually hurts more than we expect it to.

The question is, why?

Why are we so bothered by a good friend failing to “like” the family holiday picture we posted on Facebook?

Why does it ruin our mood?

Why would something so seemingly insignificant make us feel angry at our friend, moody, and bad about ourselves?

The most important lesson that we need to remember is that rejection is a part of life across the spectrum of experiences.

We don’t always win the heart of the person we pursue and we don’t always get the job we want, either.

Not everyone is going to be chosen for the team and not every social situation is going to turn out the way we would like.

Rejection, as an experience, needs to be normalized, not catastrophized.

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Thank you ….Rejection is an almost unavoidable aspect of being human. No one has ever succeeded in love or in life without first facing rejection.

We all experience it, and yet, those times when we do are often the times we feel the most alone and outcast.

So much of the hurt and struggle we endure when feeling rejected isn’t even based on the loss itself but on what we tell ourselves about the experience, the cruel ways we put ourselves down or flood ourselves with hopeless thoughts about the future.

There are many ways to learn to deal with rejection.

These include psychological tools and techniques that involve reflecting on our past, enhancing our self-understanding, and strengthening our sense of self in order to feel more self-possessed and strong in coping with a current struggle and facing the future.

Learning how to deal with rejection from friends and potential romantic partners is an important life skill. As we go through life, the chances are almost 100% that someone will reject us at one point or another.

It may be someone new that we meet or someone we’ve been friends with for a while. In either case, feeling left out and rejected by friends hurts.

While there are times when we are aware of actually being apprehensive and distrusting of love, we are more likely to identify these fears as concern over potentially negative outcomes: rejection, the deterioration of a relationship or feelings of affection that aren’t returned.

However, our fear of intimacy is often triggered by positive emotions even more than negative ones.

In fact, being chosen by someone we truly care for and experiencing their loving feelings can often arouse deep-seated fears of intimacy and make it difficult to?maintain a close relationship.

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Why Do Positive Feelings Trigger a Fear of Intimacy?

It may be surprising to learn that the real resistance to intimacy often doesn’t come from the acts of our partners, but from a lurking enemy within us.

The problem is that the positive way a lover sees us often conflicts with the negative ways we view ourselves.

Sadly, we hold on to our?negative self -attitudes?and are resistant to being seen differently.

Because it is difficult for us to allow the reality of being loved to affect our basic image of ourselves, we often build up a resistance to love.

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Consider your options

When you’re on the receiving end of rejection, it’s key to consider your options carefully.

If the other person is open to remaining friends, then the ball is now in your court.

Make sure to think about the pluses and minuses of being close with this person in a non-romantic way.

Keep in mind. If you stay friends…

If you stay friends, things will not be the same as they were before.

As I said earlier, honesty is crucial. This means that you need to be fully honest with yourself that staying friends?will not be a bridge to ending up together romantically in the future.

Has it happened before? Of course.

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