Rejection is Everywhere - Why Should We Stop Fearing It?

Do you know that in Sales & Closing, "REJECTION" is something amateur salespeople fear the most? In fact, this "Fear of Rejection" affected them on a daily basis because they often deal with rejections from prospective buyers when trying to convince them to buy what they're selling.

Do you agree that "Fear of Rejection" can be debilitating, and it could stand in the way of our success?

Although "Fear of Rejection" has been a part of human nature for centuries, I must say from working with thousands of students worldwide, some were able to overcome it while others let it rule their lives permanently. Which one do you want? It's your choice, isn't it?

In this article, we shall discuss three things:

• Why do people fear rejection so much?
• How can you stop fearing it yourself?
• How can you use your own fear as an advantage in your personal life or business?

If this sounds good to you, please continue reading the following and write down your thoughts and AHA moments as and when they pop up! I will tell you what to do at the end of this article with these AHA moments.

Why Do People Fear Rejection So Much?

Frankly, I don't have the exact answer because I don't live your life.

What I am sharing below represents an accumulation of my experience working with thousands of students worldwide.

Firstly, I know that some people fear rejection as they think that if someone rejects them, then they're not good enough.

Does this sound familiar?

But here is the truth ... "This is an irrational belief!!"

You can find other reasons to reject people - like maybe the person is a jerk or has bad taste in clothes. You can also reject people because they are rude to you or just aren't your type.

So, what's my point here?

Fear of rejection is something that we all deal with and it's just a part of life. Just remember there are many different kinds of people out there and not everyone will react the same way to you.

Imagine a salesperson has fear of rejection and thus, he avoids asking so that he won't have to offend anyone. Does it mean he will not get the sales? Instead of avoiding the subject matter, what if the salesperson chooses to ask for feedback whenever possible, and now he is no longer holding himself back and move forward. Would it translate into more business opportunities or sales?

How Can You Stop Fearing it Yourself?

Rejection consists of two parts: (i) the bad feeling you have when someone has a negative reaction to what you just said or did, and (ii) the self-critical thoughts that happen in your own mind about it.

Fear is one of those feelings. Make sense?

Essentially, fear is our imagined reaction to being rejected and not liked by other people.

I understand that this fear is a difficult emotion to live with, and it can lead us to do some irrational things - procrastination (i.e. a failed attempt at avoiding the perceived pain by doing nothing) and aggression (i.e. seeking approval through actions that don’t always reflect our beliefs).

What if you were never afraid before?

Take it that as you continue growing, fear will find you somewhere along your growth journey. It might be in response to something someone said; an action they took towards you, or a realization you had about yourself.

Fearful feelings are just as essential for survival as any other feeling. When people experience fear, they usually feel it in the form of anxiety.

Fear is just another type of emotion that we need to be able to experience and learn from when necessary.

Sometimes fear becomes such a habit that people don't even realize how much power it could have over their lives anymore.

Fearful habits are like other bad habits. For example, when someone finally decides enough is enough, then those behaviors start to become easier and take less effort with every passing day until one day they're just gone.

Fear is a habit that will also go away with time if you're willing to let it; and when it does, the life ahead of you will be better for all your troubles in the past.

If we want our future selves to become fearless, then we need to practice feeling fearlessness as well. It's not just from reading about it or watching someone else do something courageous on television that seems impossible at first glance.

How Can You Use Your Own Fear as an Advantage in Your Business?

If you find that rejection is a problem for you, how about this? Consider turning the situation around and use it as an advantage.

There are plenty of ways that you can use your fear of rejection to help you in business.

Interestingly, I found that getting rejected actually gives me more motivation to keep going, and helps me stay sharp at what I do.

Of course, you have to keep testing different things until you find something that works since "Experience is the ONLY Teacher!"

How about creating your own fear if nothing is really working. Create your own fears will motivate you to get moving on different projects or ideas. This technique has been shown in studies done by psychologists Fumio Matsuura and James Gross at Stanford University--find out what motivates you most and do more of those things!

Fear fuels us with energy when we use it productively- not only should this inspire other people, but also ourselves. Just because we are scared doesn't mean there is no hope- take that fear and turn it around for the better!

When a prospect says "No" to me, one of my core beliefs is "it's their loss not to say "YES" to me." My first instinct isn't about anger. Instead, I will assess the situation to see if it is necessary for me to turn this "No" into a "Yes" or I should just let go.

In fact, I must say that "Fear of Rejection" has been my greatest motivator in life.

Fear keep me focused because if nothing is working then fear can be turned into something productive. Fear fuels me with energy when I use it productively, not only should this inspire other people but also me too!

Is that good or great?

Conclusion

One of the most compelling reasons for people to fear rejection is because they think it means that their work or product isn't good enough. But if you can show them how your fears are not only justified but also an asset in business, then maybe they'll be more receptive to what you have to offer and give themselves a chance.

Fear is a powerful motivator. It can make you want to avoid anything that might lead to rejection, but it can also be used as an advantage in business and your personal life!

Reach out with any questions about overcoming your own fears and I’ll do my best to answer them here on this blog post!

By the way, share your #AHA MOMENT below after you have read this article. Thank you.

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Jack HM Wong

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