Reframing Your Life

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Someone asked me the other day, "How can we reframe our thoughts?"?

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It's a great question, and the answer is surprisingly simple: we need to change our perspective on whatever we are focused on.

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But if it's so simple, why is it so difficult to do, especially when we're experiencing strong, draining emotional reactions like fear, anxiety, anger, or frustration?

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The answer lies in one key factor: self-awareness.?

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Many of us lack the conscious awareness to stop ourselves from thinking and feeling certain ways in the moment.?

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We become so focused on our limited perspective that we block ourselves from seeing any alternatives.?

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However, the more we work on developing our self-awareness, the easier it becomes to identify the exact thoughts and emotions we are experiencing at any given moment.

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Developing self-awareness involves checking in with ourselves mentally, emotionally, and physically.?

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When we become more centred in the moment, free of distracting thoughts and feelings created by our unconscious mind, we reduce the noise that prevents us from identifying unhelpful thoughts.?

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Fears, assumptions, and limiting beliefs fade away, leaving us present and focused.

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When I experience unhelpful emotions like anger or frustration, or if I find myself judging someone or focusing on what I lack, I see it as an opportunity to stop what I'm doing and refocus my mind.

Here's the four-step process I follow to centre myself and reframe my thoughts:

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Identify the Physical: I start by asking myself what I'm feeling physically.?

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By tuning into my body and noticing any aches, pains, or tension, I can recognise a stress reaction.?

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This is often the first indication that I'm losing conscious focus and reverting to unconscious programming.

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Identify the Mental: Once I've identified the physical sensations, I focus on my thoughts.

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I ask myself what exactly I'm thinking about this particular experience or situation.?

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Being specific is crucial.

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Identify the Emotional: Next, I check in with my emotions to specifically identify what I'm feeling—whether it's fear, anger, self-pity, blame, frustration, or guilt.?

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Clarity is key here.

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Choose a New Perspective: With my physical sensations, thoughts, and emotions clearly identified, I can now choose a new perspective.?

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This allows me to create an emotion I want to experience, such as calmness, peace, joy, forgiveness, love, or confidence.

This four-step process helps switch off the distracting unconscious mind and allows us to reframe thoughts or perspectives that may be holding us back from being who we want to be in the moment.?

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The more we practice this, the more natural it becomes, leading to increased control over our thoughts, feelings, and actions.

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In my coaching practice, I partner with people to teach them how to do this consistently.?

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I walk with them step-by-step until it becomes a normal and natural part of their life.?

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That's why my six-month programme is called the Foundations Programme.?

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Over this period, we lay the mental and emotional foundations for continued peace of mind and fulfilment in all areas of life.?

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It's like building a new home—you wouldn't do so without laying the foundations first.?

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Creating a new mindset is no different.

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So, are you ready to start building??

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If so, I'd love to hear from you.

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PS This past week has seen the development of both my brand new website, as well as work on a new client success video, which will showcase the experiences of at least half a dozen of my clients (I'm trying to fit as many as possible into a short reel!)?

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I am really excited to finally get this out there, so keep your eyes peeled for these...