Reframing & Letting Go

I grew up in a family of 6 in a highly religious, middle-class community where most families came from poverty. My dad worked hard, abusing his body with manual labor and overtime to give us every advantage. He instilled the value of hard work and a sense of pride in doing a good job and helping others. These values were important to him, and I spent my early years upholding them. As I grew older, I realized I lacked boundaries and self-care, as my family saw both as selfish.

I was repeatedly taken advantage of for my kindness and depleted. I had three children, two marriages, and many life lessons. I had given everything I had. I dug deeper, worked harder, and I searched for my value. The truth was, I was out of alignment, and it wasn’t sustainable.

Maybe you can relate. Have you found yourself exhausted and in need of replenishment? Maybe you felt resentment for doing a good deed or frustrated for helping someone when you didn’t have time. Do you lack boundaries or the ability to hold them? Have you been frustrated that you give to others, but they never give in return?

I know I have, and what I learned was that it wasn’t someone else’s job to care for me or to meet my needs; it was my job to do that, especially before offering to help others. I had to shift my perspective, reframe things, and learn to let go! I had to find ways to fill my cup and bring fulfillment and joy into my life.

I let go of the thought that I wasn’t working hard enough, blaming someone else, or believing things were “happening to me.” I let go of caring about what others thought about me, of being a victim of circumstances, and, lastly, of old programming and of being stuck.

Instead, I put myself first, and life started to shift. I learned how to receive and let go of pride. I allowed people to help me in ways that I never had before. My relationships grew! Over time, friends noticed changes in my life and wanted to know how I was living more freely and from a place of joy.

Letting go allowed the doors to open for me. I found ways to dance as if nobody was watching, speak my truth no matter what people thought, receive, set boundaries, and practice self-care. I learned how to heal myself and raise my vibration. I created space for new people, opportunities, and ideas to come into my life.

When we choose to let go, challenges can be transmuted into beautiful energy. Reframing and letting go can allow us to shift our perspective just 10 degrees for a totally different experience. In what ways can you let go in your life to embrace the new? How might that create positive shifts in your world? Could coaching help you let go of what no longer serves you, maybe a little bit faster? It worked for me.

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Sara Anondson invites you to ignite your spark and transform your life. She can guide you through stuck places by removing energetic blockages, allowing you to uncover your life’s purpose and explore your power. As a spiritual coach, intuitive medium, business mentor, sacred rose healer, shamanic practitioner and Reiki master teacher of two lineages Sara brings a well rounded approach to her offering. Visit SacredOaksHealing.com to schedule a free consultation.