Reframing Father Christmas: A Conversation About Trust, Culture, and Communication

At Communication Guru, we have the privilege of exploring foundational concepts with our clients daily. One of the most profound topics we delve into is trust. Trust is not just a virtue; it’s the bedrock of influencing, selling, stakeholder relationship management, and client service. Relationships — whether personal, professional, or societal — are built and destroyed around this central principle.

As Coronation Asset Management aptly states in their tagline, “Trust is earned.” But how exactly is trust earned, and why does it so often erode?

Building trust involves two essential components:

1. Logical Trust – This requires a portfolio of evidence. To gain someone’s trust, you must demonstrate consistent patterns of reliability, competence, and delivery. Trust is cemented when your actions align with your promises over time.
2. Emotional Trust – Here, the focus is on creating psychological safety for stakeholders. Emotional trust is deeply personal and hinges on understanding the unique personality types and preferences of those you interact with. What makes one person feel safe and valued might differ dramatically from what works for another.

This duality of trust — logic and emotion — is at the core of human relationships.

The First Breach of Trust in Western Culture

As the year draws to a close, I often reflect on trust from a broader, cultural perspective. And every time, I circle back to the same thought: where does the first major destruction of trust occur for so many of us in Western culture?

For most children, trust begins with their parents. Unless a child faces abuse or neglect, their trust in their caregivers is absolute during their formative years. Parents are seen as omniscient, omnipotent, and, above all, truthful.

But then comes the moment when a child discovers that Father Christmas and the Easter Bunny — two of the most magical figures of their early years — are lies.

Logically and emotionally, trust is shattered.

• Logically, the child realizes that the stories they believed were false, undermining the “portfolio of evidence” they had in their parents’ truthfulness.
• Emotionally, the psychological safety they once felt — rooted in the assumption that their parents would always tell them the truth — begins to crack.

From this moment, a seed of doubt is planted. What else have my parents lied about? A pattern starts to emerge, and the foundations of trust shift.

The Origins of Father Christmas and the Easter Bunny

The stories of Father Christmas (or Santa Claus) and the Easter Bunny are not central to Christian belief. Instead, their origins are rooted in pagan traditions:

• Father Christmas is largely derived from the figure of St. Nicholas, a 4th-century Christian bishop known for his generosity. Over time, his story merged with various pagan winter traditions celebrating the solstice, gift-giving, and community feasting.
• The Easter Bunny stems from pre-Christian fertility festivals associated with Eostre, the Germanic goddess of spring. Rabbits, as symbols of fertility, were later incorporated into Christian Easter celebrations to mark the resurrection.

These figures were designed to create joy, celebration, and wonder during pivotal times in the calendar. But somewhere along the way, they evolved into myths sold as literal truths to children — at the expense of their trust.

A Call to Reframe the Narrative

In modern Western culture, perhaps it’s time to rethink how we approach these traditions. Instead of presenting Father Christmas and the Easter Bunny as real beings, why not celebrate them as fabled stories that bring humanity together?

?Reframing the narrative could look like this:

1. A Celebration of Imagination: Share the stories of Father Christmas and the Easter Bunny as creative traditions that inspire giving, kindness, and community.
2. Honouring Roots: Teach children the historical and cultural origins of these figures, showing how they evolved across societies and beliefs.
3. Preserving Trust: By reframing these tales as celebrations rather than literal truths, we avoid the eventual breach of trust that many children feel when they discover the truth.

Mainstream religions and cultures have long borrowed from pagan roots to create rituals and customs. Why not lean into this shared history to create a healthier, more honest way of celebrating?

The Role of Communication in Preserving Trust

At Communication Guru, we often discuss how trust underpins every interaction, from corporate pitches to family conversations. Studies consistently show that trust is the single most important factor in maintaining relationships:

According to a Harvard Business Review study, leaders who build trust in their teams see a 106% increase in energy levels among their teams. The study also found that employees at high-trust companies report:

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In all these domains, communication is the glue that holds trust together. Whether explaining underperformance to a client or reframing cultural myths for a child, the way we communicate shapes how trust is built — or broken.

A Festive Thought

This Christmas, let’s celebrate the magic of humanity and the traditions that bring us together. But let’s also take a moment to reflect on the stories we tell and the impact they have on trust.

To my network: Don’t stop thinking, questioning, and improving. And from all of us at Communication Guru, here’s wishing you a magical holiday season — one built on honesty, imagination, and the enduring power of trust.

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