Reflections 2022

Recently while waiting for a friend, I noticed a little boy and his Carer.

The little boy was crawling around on the footpath, then into the garden bed, he went, picking up large chunks of dirt which immediately went into his mouth for tasting and testing.

I heard the woman gasp loudly as she rushed over to take him out of the garden.

He was not happy, he cried loudly, he was exploring, and he was interrupted in the process of his discovery.

Discipline is introduced early in life, for some more harshly than others.

This got me thinking….

Have you noticed how excited we get when a friend or a relative tells us about their newborn?

Every little growth spurt is observed and celebrated.

When we are born we are very curious beings

Our senses are acute.

We use our eyes to connect, explore our surroundings and be drawn to light, colour, sound

Our ears to listen

Our tongue to taste and test

Our arms to push away what we don’t want or pull something to us that we do want.

Our legs to push against or kick furiously with excitement or frustration.

It’s amazing to me how many choices we have even in those formative months/years.

We are totally dependent on our Carers, or are we?

We roll over, we crawl, and we rock ourselves over to all fours.

We go from four points of contact, knees, and hands to two points of contact, our feet.

The pureness of the curiosity is palpable, the excitement of discovering new objects. Even lights create an enormous amount of excitement and laughter when we are curious.

We put things in our mouths to test and feel, sometimes to our Carer’s absolute horror.

Our milestones are applauded and celebrated with enormous joy and great laughter.

We celebrate our first birthdays with a cake depicting our first loves, be it animals or our favourite thing in the moment.

We get to play sports or learn crafts depending on the choices we make or for some, what choices their Carers make for them.

We learn about playing in teams or going solo…

We learn about being the popular person in the room or not.

We celebrate our early education; our graduations are noted, and we are cheered on to the next stage of our lives.

We are told we can be and do anything we want with our lives… Or not.

It is in these early years we are observing our role models, learning, and growing. We are learning about values, morals, and all in all how to be a good person…. Or not.

We learn about communication, or not.

We learn about Love, or not.

We learn about win-win situations, or not.

We learn discernment, or not.

We learn fairness and equality, or not.

We learn what is morally right, or not.

Morals are about our beliefs… Right?

What is it they say it takes a village to raise a child?

What changed all of that?

You’re on your own now, they say.

Go out into the world and make your mark.

Suddenly you have lost your cheer squad.

One minute everyone is cheering you on, and then they are not.

I believe it is a fundamental right to choose who our cheer squad is and what form that cheer squad takes.

I believe we all have the right to our own opinions and to be heard.

I believe we all have the right to go to the beat of our own drum.

I believe we all have choices in all that we do and speak.

I believe we all have the right to be celebrated and applauded even when we are out in the world on our own finding our way.

I have always known we deserve the right to belong and to be loved.

2022 has been a very powerful year of great learning for me.

The two main shape-shifters have been:

My partner Jeanie being so ill for part of that time has taught me so many wonderful things…

Following my life’s purpose and trusting myself fully in my Coaching/Therapy business.

Mary Scott Influence was born

The power of human kindness

The power of the human spirit

The power of compassion

The power of being patient.

The power of being authentic

The power of making a stand for who I am.

I have learnt the art of considering others and their opinions, I learnt (often the hard way) that we must always do what is morally right by ourselves and others.

Make Your Mark If You Dare.

2022 What a year it has been.

2023 Bring on Mastery and Magic.

Always Remember

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