Rediscovering Your True Self
I recently had a conversation with someone who was feeling stuck in her career. She had explored both entrepreneurship and the corporate world, but she was torn between the two paths and couldn’t figure out which one would lead to long-term fulfillment.
At first, it seemed like the dilemma was purely professional—should she continue with her entrepreneurial journey or return to the stability of a corporate role? But as we dug deeper, something else started to surface. Her confusion wasn’t really about the career path at all—it was rooted in something much deeper.
She was caught in what we often call "analysis paralysis," hoping to find certainty in a world that naturally carries uncertainty. It’s something many of us do—waiting for the perfect answer, the perfect moment, the perfect path. But this search for certainty can be one of the quickest ways to invite suffering.
As we talked more, her real fear began to reveal itself. Beneath all the career confusion was a deep, unspoken need for approval, particularly from her father. No matter how much she achieved, she still felt like she wasn’t “enough” in his eyes. And this need for validation was shaping her decisions more than she realized. It wasn’t her true essence guiding her choices—it was the persona she had built around seeking approval.
This is something many of us do, often without even knowing it. We create personas to protect ourselves from old wounds. For her, it was the over-achiever, always striving for success to feel valued. But these personas, while helpful at times, can pull us further away from our true selves. They make us chase things we don’t truly want or need. And when we operate from that place, nothing feels quite right.
The conversation got me thinking about how we often live with this gap between who we really are and who we think we need to be. When we live from that place of disconnection, our desires become conditioned. We start wanting things that society tells us we should want, or things that comfort us in the moment, but don’t nourish us in the long run.
But when we start to reconnect with our essence, things change. Our desires shift. We stop chasing what’s driven by fear or old wounds, and we start craving what truly aligns with who we are.
A powerful example of this shift can be seen through something as simple as fasting. At first, when we go without food, we often crave comfort foods—chocolate, rich sauces, junk food. These cravings come from patterns built over time, similar to how we build personas to cope. But as the fast continues and we clear out these impulses, something profound happens. The body begins to crave what truly nourishes it—fresh water, fruits, simple and wholesome meals. The cravings shift, just like our desires shift when we clear away the old layers of conditioning.
My client’s story is a reminder that what we think we need is often just a mask for something deeper. And when we reconnect with our true essence, we begin to see things more clearly. The desires that arise from that place are always healthier, more aligned, and more fulfilling—not just for us, but for everyone around us.
If we look beneath what we’re chasing in life, we often find something very simple—a need for love, approval, or security. Recognizing this need is the first step toward bridging the gap between our personas and our true selves. And once we start that process, life feels clearer, lighter, and more meaningful.
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