Recovering Perfectionists

Perfectionism?and imposter syndrome often go hand-in-hand!

Two psychological phenomena that often coexist, creating a seemingly unbreakable cycle of self-deprecation and self-doubt.

Think about it……

If you set excessively high goals for yourself and fail to reach them, do you experience major self-doubt and worry about measuring up? ??

Success is rarely satisfying to perfectionists because you always believe you could’ve done even better.

Constantly striving can lead to burnout, chronic stress, and even physical health problems.?

Whether you realise it or not, perfectionists are often control freaks, feeling like they have to do something themselves if they want something done right!

On the other hand, imposter syndrome is a psychological pattern where individuals doubt their accomplishments and have a persistent internalised fear of being exposed as a "fraud".?

Despite ample evidence of your competence, it is hard to be convinced that you deserve the success you have achieved.?

Both are neither productive nor healthy!

The constant stress and self-doubt are detrimental to a person's mental health and overall quality of life.?Therefore, it's crucial to recognise these patterns and seek help when necessary.

If you still have to do everything yourself and often feel like you fall short of the expectations of others.

Ask yourself these 5 questions to avoid burnout, stress, anxiety, or even depression;

? Have you ever been accused of being a micromanager?

? Do you have great difficulty?delegating?

? When you’re able to delegate, do you feel frustrated and disappointed in the results?

? When you miss the (insanely high) mark on something, do you accuse yourself of “not being cut out” for your job and ruminate on it for days?

? Do you feel like your work must be 100% perfect, 100% of the time?

Recovering perfectionists?

These 8 behaviours not only signify recovery from perfectionism, but also contribute to improved well-being and quality of life.

Owning and?celebrating your achievements?is essential if you want to avoid?burnout, find contentment and cultivate self-confidence.

Someone recovering from perfectionism might exhibit the following behaviours;

1. Setting Realistic Goals: They start setting achievable and realistic goals, rather than striving for unattainable perfection.
2. Embracing Mistakes: They begin to view mistakes as learning opportunities rather than failures, understanding that they are a natural part of growth and improvement.
3. Avoiding Comparison: Avoiding comparisons with others, realizing that everyone has their own strengths and weaknesses.
4. Exercising Self-Compassion: They show kindness and understanding towards themselves, particularly when they fall short of their own expectations.
5. Prioritising Mental Health: They are more conscious of their mental health, seeking professional help if necessary, and are proactive in managing stress.
6. Focusing on Progress: Instead of striving for perfection, they focus more on progress and personal growth.
7. Balancing Work and Leisure: They understand the importance of balancing work and leisure for maintaining a healthy lifestyle.
8. Radical self-care: They practice self-care and live pursuing joy, instead of worry and fear all the time! For the tall poppy or person of influence, who are often told about their ‘too muchness’

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With the right mindset, support system and professional help, anyone can overcome these challenges and lead a happier, healthier life.

Regardless of being a great "team" of one to whom you happily delegate everything, or even if you are still suffering with PTSD from some terrible past professional trauma.

Therapy and coaching can also be beneficial, as a professional can provide coping mechanisms and strategies to break destructive cycles of self-doubt and inadequacy.

Additionally, having a solid support system of friends, family or mentors can be some of your BIGGEST cheerleaders.

Whether you realise it or not, perfectionists deserve self-care and rest too.

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For all those paradigm-shifting diverse women who are consistently showing up 11 out of 10.......

It’s important to acknowledge and know that you are deserving of your success regardless of the haters!

See you at the sanctuary!

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