Recognizing Resistance

What if the struggle you feel isn't a sign to push harder but an invitation to let go?

We all have moments when life feels like an uphill battle—no matter how much effort we put in, things don't flow how we want. The instinct is to push harder, grip tighter, and control more. But what if resistance isn't something to fight against but something to notice?

This week, we explore the first step in surrender: recognizing where we are resisting life itself.

Before we begin, here's a three-minute box-breathing exercise. This will ground you and open space for reflection.

A Conversation with Andrew

For years, I thought resistance was a sign that I needed to work harder. If something wasn't working, I defaulted to double down on effort, whether in business, relationships, or personal growth.

But I've learned that resistance is rarely about the situation itself. It's about how I relate to it.

Resistance is our way of saying,?"I don't want this to be the way it is." It manifests as frustration, overthinking, avoidance, or even exhaustion.

The problem? The more we resist, the more stuck we feel.

But something profound happens when we recognize resistance for what it is—a signpost, not an enemy. Instead of pushing harder, we can pause and ask:

"What am I unwilling to accept in this moment?"

That's where surrender begins.

Reflection: Where Are You Resisting?

Take a moment to reflect:

1?? Where in your life do you feel stuck, frustrated, or drained?

2?? What are you fighting against that isn't changing?

3?? What would it feel like to stop pushing and observe what's happening?

Write down your insights. Awareness is the first step to letting go.

Action: Noticing Resistance in Real Time

This week, your practice is simple but powerful: Catch yourself resisting.

1?? Pick an area where you often feel tension (work, relationships, health, money).

2?? Each time you feel frustration, pause and say: "I notice I'm resisting this. What if I didn't?"

3?? Instead of reacting, simply observe how it feels to loosen your grip.

You don't need to fix anything yet. Just notice. The shift begins with awareness.

My Journey

The first time I consciously recognized my resistance, I was in the middle of a major career shift. I had been pushing so hard to make something work that I completely missed the fact that I no longer wanted it. But I kept holding on—because letting go felt like a failure.

Then, one day, I asked myself a simple question:

"What am I afraid will happen if I let go?"

The answer was eye-opening. I feared I would lose control. I feared uncertainty. But the reality? I was already exhausted. My resistance was costing me more than surrender ever could.

When I finally let go, what I thought was an ending became an opening. Within weeks, new opportunities surfaced—ones I hadn't been able to see before because I was too busy clinging to what wasn't working.

The lesson?

Life and opportunities are always abundantly flowing around us. However, our experience of that flow is determined by how open we are to seeing and receiving it. The more we resist, the more we block what is naturally available.

When we surrender, we align with life's rhythm, and possibilities emerge effortlessly.?

Life flows in direct proportion to how much we let go.

Conclusion: The Path to Surrender Starts Here

This week, we started with the first step: Recognizing resistance.

Next week, we'll explore the next step:?the courage to Release, which means?learning to let go of control and trust life's unfolding.

Until then, notice where you resist, and ask: What if I didn't?

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See you next week!