Reclaiming Self and Balance

Reclaiming Self and Balance

Sometimes I wear hijab on important occasions like family gatherings and birthdays ???

Am I pretending to make others comfortable or choosing what is appropriate for the occasion?

This day (in the picture above) we met at the masjid. It is appropriate to wear a hijab ?? at the masjid to pray. Afterwards we went to a halal restaurant where it is optional and for me felt strange to remove my hijab.?

Clothes are clothes. I have always believed that you wear what makes you feel comfortable. In fact in high school before I was Muslim and fully understood the meaning of hijab, I wore hijab at least once a week.?

June of 2022, I “officially“ removed my hijab during my live streamed broadcast of the Free to Be show. Even in that announcement I mentioned that it was an experiment.? I have been living my life as an experiment ever since. I’m trying things out that I formally assumed were socially unacceptable.?

Now I’m seeing if they are acceptable for me. I’m experimenting with what I love, what gives me joy and being me whether others are uncomfortable or have different opinions and judgment about it.?

This has magnetized more joy in my life from the inside out. It has also created intense conversations with people in my life. I’m now having hard, real and truer conversations. Some of my relationships are deepening and others are being released.?

Magnetizing who you are is a powerful practice and not for the faint of heart.?

I am grateful that the Institute where I study encourages decolonized education not indoctrination. It allows me to get to and excavate my own depth in a way I was separated from in former universities and institutes.?

We are encouraged to know our heart, practice creating a container for its expression and understanding its requirements and living in integrity with our choices. It is different and worth it.?

Finally I’m the adult version of my younger self experimenting with the wheelhouse of a seasoned scientist rather than a child poking the bear of society.?

Finally I understand what it means to be #freetobe! I think of it as reclaiming Self and balance. We are out of balance because we choose others over ourselves. When we choose to focus on Self, balance follows. Detached Love: Transforming Your Heart So That You Can Transform Your Mind is all about creating a sustainable system and practices of self-nurturing. Unless you experiment with what nurtures you and creates balance you will never be in the practice of either.

This is day 29 in my 52 day countdown of my four year anniversary publishing Detached Love: Transforming Your Heart So That You Can Transform Your Mind. This is the behind the scenes of the creation of #theiltimatejoygoddess living detached love.?

What’s your behind the ?? scenes journey? Are you interested in reclaiming yourSelf?

Complete this application to begin your exploration.


I am the Ultimate Joy Goddess inviting you to choose joy and pleasure so that you can actually enjoy your life. To be the ultimate version of that is multi-orgasmic living because when you choose to experience joy in every moment you flow with your true life force.

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