Reclaim Your True Identity

How much of your true self did you leave behind in 2023?

Operating out of the performance trap — that approval addiction — tends to get all of us trying to be who we think everyone else wants us to be.

Well, stick with me because this week, I’m going to start a journey to help you come back to your authentic self.

Hi, this is Grant Herbert, VUCA Leadership and Sustainable Performance Coach and today, as I wish you a happy New Year, I want to help you reclaim your true identity.

For those of you who started the journey again with me last week, I gave you an empowering structure to look forward into 2024 so that, when you arrive at the end of this year, you've not only achieved what you want to achieve but you've gotten there without all the stress and conflict.

If you haven't watched that episode, I suggest you go back and go through it. However, to give you a quick recap, we talked about looking at the results you want at the end of the year. We then looked at the reality of where you are now, and that created the gap that you need to train and develop. Then, we talked about the roadblocks, which are the things you put in your own way that stop you from going from where you are now to where you want to go.

For many of you, that's been happening year after year. How do I know that? Because that's certainly my own experience.

The fourth thing we talked about was adding resources that would help you overcome those roadblocks and then get to where you want to go.

So, I want to start that this week by giving you resources and practical steps that you can take right now to get the results you want by removing those roadblocks once and for all.

There's only one YOU, and the world needs YOU with your gifts, talents, experiences, depth of knowledge, and everything you have come through that has made you who you are today. However, as with every human being on the planet, you've believed things along the way that aren't true because they made you feel safe and comfortable.

Those 3 universal fears that I talk about all the time; the fear of not belonging, the fear of not being good enough, and the fear of not being loved, sometimes force us to behave in a way that's counterintuitive.

It's not really helping us, but we think that it is.

> That internal dialogue and conditioning.

> What we've led ourselves to believe by things said externally to us.

> Experiences that we've gone through but that we've made mean a certain thing and then ruminated over time and again until they became your truth.

Some of these things are not healthy.

As I talked about last week, you need to repack your bags for where you’re going, and not bring those limiting thoughts and beliefs forward on this next leg of your journey.

They're going to weigh you down and hold you back. They are the roadblocks that I'm talking about that will stop you from going from where you are now to where you want to go.

To do this, you first need to give yourself permission to focus on YOU.

I talked about forward-focused reflection, which is where you can look at things in your past and things that are going on now, in a certain way. This is so you are reflecting on getting some data and some assistance to move forward and not camp back in that place where you don't feel good about yourself and you’re getting more evidence of what you believe you are incapable of doing. No. You’re going to do that in a different way.

You're going to calm that inner voice and take back control of who you are and who you are not.

Eleanor Roosevelt said: “What other people think of you is none of your business.” And that is so true. She also said, “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”

So, to reclaim your true identity, the first thing you need to do is realise that you are worthy of where it is that you want to go...

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Grant Herbert (aka The People Builder) describes himself as an ordinary guy, with an outstanding wife and 5 amazing kids, who has a passion to help people escape the performance trap and regain their authenticity in every area of life. He is a VUCA Leadership Mentor, Sustainable Performance Coach, Master Coach Trainer in Social and Emotional Intelligence,?and the founder of People Builders.

Visit www.grantherbert.com to find out how you can connect.