The Reasons Which You Know But Ignore - Why You Feel Hurt (For Women)

I have hardly written any post or content specifically for women till now but I am compelled to do so this time after knowing, talking to, going in depth to the lives of my mentees, friends and some known associates who have been going through such unimaginable phases of life that you only get to see in movies, or listen from any friends or known people.

Today I thought, it's time I pen down certain aspects which I deeply care about.

If you are reading this, please DO NOT take this as a women empowerment post.

Reason?

I don't believe there is anything which SHOULD be 'empowerment' stuff in this world because every one is born same, with the exact same composition, capabilities and freedom in terms of humanity. Hence, no one has the right to give anyone freedom in terms of empowerment be it men or women.

If you are reading this, think from the aspect of a basic human being and not 'gender' based stuff. Although I will mention the word 'man' because am writing in respect to heterosexual relationships in general to be precise.

Yes both men and women feel hurt, but in this article the context is about mainly women. May be I will write another article from the context of men as well, someday.

Disclaimer: I am not a relationship expert. I am only a person who study, work and understand little bit of how our minds work which leads to different behaviours in men and women. Few things you might agree or disagree but that's okay. If this helps even one life, will feel great.

Ladies,

If you are thinking that your family loves you and want to protect you in the name of -

• Don't wear this clothes, don't study this subject because it is a man's subject, don't do job because you can be a better full time 'wife' and 'mother'
• Don't voice out your opinions because you would be seen as 'Powerful' women or 'Alpha' women and no one will marry you
• Don't do job because your in-laws will not like it
• Don't be smart because you will be perceived as a character-less
• Don't argue with your Family/office people because they are always right

then you are stupidly wrong.

You are seen as a daughter, sister, wife and mother but NOT as a human being.

In another case, if you really love someone and you are uncertain about your relationship(future) with that person and you decide to have a transparent open talk with him, most of the time if you see he is avoiding then remember this -

• At the natural level, men generally are not so emotional hence they want to avoid these kind of deep topics
• When it is about that they have to make a decision about their relationship they are the most confused souls on the planet
• The way men think is absolutely different than how we think
• The more you push and want to mould your man to do stuffs in your way, it will happen for sometime may be, BUT he will find out a way to do his own things. The only reason he is doing stuffs whatever you are asking is either he truly loves you OR he has found a way out to do his own stuffs which you are not aware of
• If he does not take any effort from his side to actually work on the relationship with you, know for sure that he is not serious
• If you are with someone who does not see a future with you together then know for sure that he does not want you in his life wholeheartedly
• If you are with someone who feels ashamed to be seen with you together in public then you got the signal!
• If he does not take efforts to know you, understand you as a person, understand your emotional needs then you are getting all the hints clearly
• If you think he is not sharing his personal life with you (even the unimportant stuffs), you know what is your place in his life, so accept the truth
• If you have a gut feeling that he is lying to you - then yes he is. A woman's gut feeling is incomparable!

Always remember specifically - When a man says 'I don't know' to you in terms of whether he wants to be with you or not there are practically only 2 cases possible -

1. He seriously doesn't know and need some time (in that case make it clear)
2. He knows for sure deep down inside him the answer(Yes/No) already from the beginning when he met you but wants to keep you hanging because he wants the best of all worlds, knowingly or unknowingly doing the havoc on you emotionally

Unfortunately, the men in our society has never been taught how to behave, treat or even at least try to understand the opposite gender with empathy and emotion.

Some red flags you may want to keep in mind in your life -

• Never get involved with a 'desperate' man
• Never get involved with a 'Mama's boy'
• Never get involved with a 'married' man

Reason?

The only outcome in all these cases is that - YOUR energy, happiness, emotions will be sucked out. You are the one who will ALWAYS be at the hurting and losing end. He will never understand but you will shed your tears every night 'hoping' that he might understand. No! Wake up!

Whatever position of life you are in right now, always remember - You Are Enough.

If you are able to pour so much of love, sacrifice, understanding, empathy, compassion, respect to someone's life, then the problem is NOT with you.

You are a bundle of love. Wherever you go, whoever you be with (who deserves you), you will always spread love.

The Man who truly loves you, come what may will find a way to be with you always (at least till death). For that you have to pour your unconditional love first. Because this energy, this feeling, this emotion 'love' is very powerful and is all about you 'giving' first.

Keep in mind - You are not late, you are not powerless, you are not any 'object'. You are powerful, beautiful and full of love.

If you really want to attract the kind of love, the person whom you deserve and who deserves you, then all you need to do is make yourself capable of it in terms of working on your mental, emotional and physical dimension in life.

Working on your self first.

When you operate in a particular positive vibration, you attract the right kind of people in your life who deserves you.

Let go of all toxicity, irrespective of friends or family.

If you have made a decision to have a child and then your life became hell in your married life, you have all the power to take your stand.

And yes! Your child is not the 'weakness', not the 'excuse' you tell yourself that you have to take all the shit what's going on in your life. In fact, your child is your strength, so powerful that once you see beyond it, you will have no doubt in making the right decision in your life.

Does that mean you will not make mistakes again?

No.

In fact even if you make mistake next time, learn to understand the hidden meaning from that situation, from that pain. You can hear all the whispers...trying to tell you something, teach you something.

So next time you see yourself in the mirror, just say this much - I Love You!

(This is not about those exceptional amazing men out there who truly are an example of what a real man is. As you know exceptions are always there. And thank you to all those exceptional men in the world because of whom, there's still some hope for majority of the men to understand the depth, importance and sensibility of it)

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