The Reason Why You Should Never Trust Your Boss

Every employee knows that their immediate manager establishes the vibe for their relationship with their work. If a supervisor is a cool guy every job becomes a dream job and if the supervisor is a jerk, it won't matter how much one loves the work, you are going to hate the job with passion. Your immediate manager is the person who can give you pay raises or keep you stuck at your current pay rate. Your manager can fire you or recommend you for a promotion.

The unequal power relationship between a manager and their subordinate is one of the most dysfunctional features of traditional employment, which makes the immediate manager the most important person in one’s working life for as long as they still work at the same company. This happens every day when?new supervisors are promoted with little thought, given little to no training and the worse part they are given powers to disapprove and approve whom they deem competent. In such settings, workers often twist words just to please their master but hurt themselves in the process, which is very bad but a number of us did this at one point.

We involuntarily shift our behaviour just to match the expectations of our superiors, and we give up our rights in the process. You see friends having their time and one friend’s phone rings and it’s the boss they quickly change the tone of the voice just to give satisfaction to the caller. ?

Let's look at some examples that managers displays at work:

1. If your manager complains to you about your fellow employees or higher-up managers, they are not trustworthy. Anyone who will gossip to you will just as easily gossip about you.

2. If your manager is obsessed with "face time" in the workplace and pays close attention to employees' arrival and departure times, they are not trustworthy.

3. If your manager is afraid of higher-up managers, they are not trustworthy.

4. If your manager needs to find someone to blame whenever something goes wrong, they are not worthy of your trust. Many managers have this problem. They cannot handle the pressure of being accountable for their department. When something goes wrong, they must find a scapegoat. They yell at the scapegoat or write them up to get rid of the stress they feel over the mishap. No matter how friendly your manager is when he or she is not experiencing stress, you cannot assume that you can trust them when their stress level increases!

5. If your boss is obsessed with targets and metrics,?you cannot trust them. Yardsticks?are only one part of a healthy management structure. Managers who care too much about hitting every goal, every day do not have the backbone to lead through trust. That is the only kind of manager worthy of your talents!

If you cannot trust your manager, don't panic. You don't have to start a job search tomorrow, but you can begin to think about what you want and need in a job that you aren't getting now. You can take your time, and launch a stealth job search when you feel ready.

Your muscles will begin growing the moment you turn your attention away from pleasing your undeserving boss and start focusing on pleasing yourself!

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