The Reason

Today is busy. We rush, we run, we speak fast, walk fast & breath fast.

We often use phrases like: I am so busy at the moment, I hardly have time to eat properly, I have long days, I hardly have time for my children, and I feel like time is running...

These are not unusual sentences I hear from leaders, running in late to our online meetings with me; life can be as if time is running away, and to catch it is just impossible, anyway.

I have been there myself, so I know the frustration, "the pain" of always feeling behind, feeling sorry and filled with excuses, ready to get caught by someone who can look through me, and I did NOT like that - just like this person could see how much I ran to do it all.

This was a feeling I had many years after My Dearest Mother was killed by the danish "health system" because I discovered she was over-and wrong dozed with medicine that could kill her. The system chased me and tried to hinder I took care of my mother in my home, rescuing her from the same system that wanted me to "give her back". The feeling of not feeling good enough, capable of not taking care of my own dear mother, and at last they succeed in killing her, they "forgot" to give her food for 1 week at the hospital. My Dearest Sweet ALWAYS breathing for me, Mother - how could they???

Of course, I fell apart, my life was like dropped in the water - all I cared about was my 3 sons, My Dearest Souls & Gifts of Life ??

My Children, My dog & Mindfulness became the new ways of surviving. When life is hard, we often find some new things to hold on to, and these became mine.

I told, at that time, my very great chief about it all, the newspaper and TV were filled with the very big bad things happening in a danish public hospital, so everyone knew, and I needed time for my family.

Mindfulness was how I began to breathe again, to take the first steps back into the corporate world, to make a living from how I could, from an honest place within myself, contribute.

I wanted to help other people who have suffered from anything hard, difficult, lost a very special person in their lives, or felt that life could be just too much. And so many other people were losing their dear ones, just like me at the danish hospitals in those years. There were no explanations, regret, or reasons for what happened, only that they were busy..........

I began to see patterns, patterns within people's lives - personal and professional, and felt deeply sorry for their loss, sorrow, or emotions in whatever was the reason for them to feel sad, bad, or not able to stay present in their lives - everything has a reason!!!

If a person is not present & aware in their life, there is a reason for that - and it has to be acknowledged! This is a good place to start when meeting a colleague who is "not there".

So I started to help leaders (I knew this field from being a leader for about 20 years, at that time), I knew that some of them were filled with difficult emotions - and if they on the top of that, had to deal with a loss, that hard feeling around that, and at the same time still were trying to carry on, like before, that was too hard, from my opinion.

I was not able to continue my job, at that time, as I called it: My Dream job! on a Business School, designing programs to help companies to go through tough times, changes, etc.

My path was now filled with A Mindful Approach, helping leaders to be more in the NOW as we don't know how long any of us will be here, I believe that time is a Valuable factor in planning our time, as human beings, including how we manage our time, overall.

Today, in 5 days it is 20 years ago I lost My Dearest Mother, still feel awful about this month today, 45 years ago I lost My Dear Father, February does me no good!!

Today, with my grown-up sons, appreciate the moments with them, I help leaders remind WHY they put in the efforts of the hard work; don't ever forget we are only here a short time and time is running - but if we continue to reach all the stars in the universe, we get too exhausted to enjoy life - so my best advice is always to enjoy life while you have it.

Money is just "A Thing", a ticket to buy yourself time - but spending Real Quality Time with your Dear Ones is Precious. Only you can make the best choices for YOU

Bella brings in the Value of Reminding that life is short

She helps us, my sons & I to Appreciate Life & Time - learnings from having Dina, our former dog, and all our family members, who we also have lost during the years.

Taking good care of each other, being present & feeling thankful for each other, is what life has taught my sons & I.