Rearing Heads: The Truth of Scars
Patricia Freudenberg
Principal Owner and Partner at Miss-U-Gram with expertise in End Of Life Coaching
Life is often a reflection of our inner world, an outward display of what brews beneath the surface. Like the breakouts of acne on a teenager’s skin, emotional scars rear their heads, triggered by impurities or unresolved pain. In both the physical and emotional realms, these scars—some visible, others invisible—tell a story of struggle, healing, and choice.
Acne, in its most common form, is the result of clogged pores, dirt, and impurities embedding themselves in the skin. For a while, these blemishes might remain hidden, barely noticeable. But over time, when left unattended, they surface—becoming larger, angrier, and painful to the touch. Eventually, they come to a head. In a desperate attempt to rid ourselves of the discomfort, we may force them out. But in doing so, we risk creating lasting scars, remnants of the turmoil that erupted on our skin.
Yet, with patience, the right treatment, and a gentle approach, these impurities can be coaxed to disappear—sometimes without leaving a trace. Healing takes place with the grace of time and the right conditions. The scars, though barely visible, remind us that once there was pain, that something had to surface before it could heal. Still, we cannot forget that sometimes, the breakouts return, lurking beneath the skin, just waiting for the right moment to reappear.
This parable of skin imperfections mirrors the unseen emotional scars we carry. Emotional pain, much like acne, can remain buried for long periods of time, festering beneath the surface. Sometimes, it explodes into the open, leaving us raw and exposed. Other times, we try to force healing prematurely, only to create more damage.
Then there are those deeper wounds—the kind that aren’t so easily managed. Caused by overactive emotions, unbalanced hormones, and the turmoil of life’s challenges, these emotional breakouts fester within us, sensitive to the touch. The infection that comes from self-inflicted wounds—our need to force things, to control what cannot be controlled—leaves us in a state of disrepair. These scars, while invisible to others, are heavy with the weight of unresolved pain. They remind us of our humanity, our vulnerability, and our need for true healing.
In this, we see the importance of finding the root cause of our emotional blemishes. Sometimes, it’s our external environment that needs to be cleansed—relationships, work, or habits that contribute to the pollution of our inner world. Other times, it’s an internal shift that must take place, a rebalancing of our hormones, our diet, or our state of mind. Whatever the cause, one thing remains true: the path to healing always comes with a choice.
We cannot always control what life throws our way, but we can control how we choose to deal with it. Whether we let those breakouts fester or address them with care, whether we force things or let the process unfold naturally, we are participants in our own healing. And in the grand mystery of life, healing—both physical and emotional—takes time. Some scars heal quickly, others slowly. But no matter what, time is fleeting. We are not promised tomorrow, and so we must choose wisely how we live today.
Why waste time allowing the impurities of life to fester beneath the surface? Why let them control us? Instead, we should seek healing, enjoy the present moment, and embrace every opportunity to grow. Because when we make the right choices—when we treat our emotional wounds with the care they deserve—we create a better tomorrow for ourselves.
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In the end, scars—both visible and invisible—are a testament to our resilience. They remind us that healing is always possible, even when the journey is difficult. And through patience, self-awareness, and grace, we can emerge stronger, more whole, and more at peace.
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