Realization

My background in psychology has always made me quite curious about nailing the ‘how to measure’ challenge in studying human behavior.

?In one of these thought experiments that’s always swirling around in my head, I think I have nailed a rating scale for a human trait I love to observe and I’m happy to finally share it with you fine people. ?

?How can you tell for sure that someone is truly humble??

?Is it when they consistently don’t boast about what they have or what they can do that others find hard to??

?Or Is it when they share what they have with others without being asked? Or are able to serve people with less societal standing than they are?

?I believe these and many more indicators for assessing humility are all valid.?

?The sure fire one I have noticed and have tested quite a bit?is the time between realizing you’re wrong and apologizing for being wrong.?

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Note that I said realizing you’re wrong and admitting it, not being told you’re wrong and admitting but the realization itself.

?Do you know people who when confronted with something bad they did or said almost immediately admit and apologize once they realize its true? Yeah, that’s my rating definition of humility.

?Some other people realize that they are wrong and keep coming up with an excuse to justify what they did or just refuse to acknowledge that knowing admission of wrong you can sometimes see in their eye.

?That’s pride.?

?Pride is the road block to the high way of humility.?

?And to make rating humility this way so much harder, it is only you that really knows if you’re humble and maybe God. Because the moment of realization of wrong is incredibly personal. I’m not in your head so I cannot know the exact time you realize ‘O shit, I’m wrong’.

?Someone may confront you with the wrong you did, and, in that moment, you truly don’t see you did wrong, so you dig in. You could also realize what you did was wrong but then refuse to admit to ever admit to it and tip toe around an apology. ?

?The truly humble admit wrong quickly once they realize they are wrong. It may be on the spot, it may come later but they admit to wrong once they realize they are wrong. ?

?I don’t know how helpful this is as a rating to judge the actions of others, I would say for that use case its not very useful. But in evaluating yourself, I think it’s a breakthrough in behavioral psychology.

You're the one who can tell how long it takes you to admit wrong once the realization hits.

Somebody hand me my Nobel Prize immediately.

*drops mic*

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