RealitySpirituality: Happiness and Relationships

The truth about being happy and having a feeling of contentment and peace is more than just a notion of wanting to be happy. Happiness is a practice that begins with unlearning everything you were taught about ideas of happiness, life, relationships and about your journey. In this case, relationship refers to the romantic, business and platonic interactions you have with people. Happiness in these bonds is about maintaining and sustaining a peaceful relationship, regardless of what’s happening.?????????????????????

When you really get down to how to create and maintain a peaceful relationship, it gets a little tricky. Any of the people in your life and your relationship with them can become a bit confrontational or argumentative. The question is then: Is it possible for you to have peace in any relationship, all of the time? Firstly, you must understand that the most important relationship in anybody’s life is the relationship they have with themselves. Therefore, if there is no peace in that relationship, how can you have calm interactions with anyone else? Very often, we subscribe to the false notion that other people cause our emotions. While it is hard to admit, if you have turmoil, you are unable to have peaceful relationships.

It is extremely important that we be honest with ourselves so we can adjust in any relationship we are in. A small shift in energy is all it takes to create whatever dynamic you want in a relationship. No matter who the other parties are or how they used to interact with you, you hold the power to change the nature of the relationship. So, you have to make the first gesture and do away with the pride or ego that prevents this.

Again, labels prove to be hindrances to happiness. The way we expect people to behave creates conflict and angst when these beliefs about who they are and how they should function in our lives aren’t met. An expectancy for someone to behave in a way you think is appropriate or proper, is a detriment to any contentment or happiness you are trying to cultivate in the relationship. The only way you are going to have a peaceful relationship is by being totally accepting of the other person without wanting them to be any different than they are.

Relationships are gifts and there is a reason that the universe is bringing it to you. It is now your responsibility to create peace and maintain an acceptance of persons who are different from you and not totally incompatible with who you are. You can say you want to be happy, but it is the daily practice in these moments that really matters. Relationships are the key that give you an idea of where you are in your growth. Embrace it and allow everything to flow.??

Happiness is a practiced skill. ~rln?