REALISTIC &UNREALISTIC EXPECTATIONS IN THE RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN THE SEXES WHEN IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH OPPOSITE SEX

What a woman needs in a relationship and what a man needs in a relationship.. Loquacioustalkleelian's take...

There are realistic and unrealistic expectations that both sexes have towards one another when they in a relationship with the opposite sex. Most importantly, there is the "get to know your partner and their weaknesses , and strengths tailor-made" expectations. The latter is very key and as a result, one should be able to learn early on in the relationship what they can and cannot stomach from their partner when in a relationship; being mindful of the fact that there is no perfect being on planet earth. And as such we all have to make compromises, disagree to agree if we all have to relate, cohabit and thrive as one, and with one another. Hence everything and anything is possible if we say it is and walk that it is.

The realistic expectations that I feel a woman should have for her male partner should stem from, as follows;

a. the man being able to provide for her;

b. protect; and

c. pleasure her.

Along the lines of the aforesaid three (3) root P's that a woman needs/expects, the following sub-needs would naturally flow from the said root-needs,

d. her need for affection (attention);

e.her need for honest, open communication (no shitty lies);

f. and commitment.

Due to time constraint, I would dissect the said needs in my subsequent posts.

Nevertheless, a woman should be mindful of the unrealistic and needless expectations that she has for her man. Knowing full well that a man is not her ticket to a life of affluence, wealth and fame. She has a divine destiny and purpose to fulfill. Also she has a call on her life. Therefore, God expects her to step up to the plate and live it up; whether as a S-I-N-G-L-E -unmarried woman or as a separate-unique-&completely-whole-all-by-herself- submissive wife/mother. See the book of Proverbs 31: 10-31!

Admittedly, man ought to provide for you as his woman , yes! Anyways, if you both are married and by mutual decision you are a stay at or work from home wife/mother, he should take care of most of your "reasonable"(this is subjective) needs and not every of your flying,crawling and woreva wants. Considering that even as a wife and a mother, with the good head you have on your shoulders; you can make your own money as well and support your partnership and union as husband and wife.

So as a fine a*** woman dating a man who would readily excuse his money and give you the yank at any and every point in time that he doesn't have money or doesn't have money to spare (because it is not convenient for him or he finds it difficult to make sacrifices for you his fine a*** girl). Biko, take a fine-while-shaking-your-cute-behind-walk and leave him all by his fine-self. The last time you checked, you were all by your-fine-self when he came a-wooing and a-toasting you. For you to be his woman, while forsaking all others. In that case, he should be content to be alone if he doesn't have the currency (ies) to take care of a woman, mbok! He should get a job or step up on his game in whatever legitimate business or pursuits he has going for him. Maka na esighi n'enu daa!(you didn't fall from the sky).

Truthfully, ladies bear in mind that a love relationship with man is not an employment and a have-all-you-can-have-buffet-unlimited! Because life is give and take, woman. A woman cannot expect to receive from the man, the things she never shows or play her own part for.

Also, if you want a man to please you, you should please him as well. We are in a democracy people! Why would a man please you, if you are not willing to do as follows for him;

i. Respect him;

ii. Need him as the man in your life (running by him the core decisions of your life,etc. ); and

iii. Fulfilling him (sexually, etc. in marriage or otherwise,etc. while dating him)?

Flowing from the aforesaid realistic (root) expectations a man has for his woman, he would need his woman to;

iv. accept him as he is;

v. he would need to truly have a sense of belonging which stems from his woman; and

vii. he would need to feel the joy of companionship of having you as his woman or partner,etc.

TO BE CONTINUED....?????????