Real Rapport

“Rapport is the ultimate tool for producing results with other people and no matter what you want in life if you can develop rapport with the right people, you'll be able to fill their needs, and they will be able to fill yours.”

Anthony Robbins

While expanding your professional network and developing professional relationships are great, they are even better when you have established and developed a friendship first. People tend to help those they know. When a personal connection is established, you will find out that it's more important than the professional relationship, and it helps you to develop that connection and build rapport much faster. If we focus on building a friendship then developing the professional connections for business deals with our colleagues, we will find it much easier to communicate, and you will find that your partners, colleagues, customers are also finding it much easier to communicate with you.

It is that interpersonal connection that human beings are always looking for. I don't like to use that term social animal, but we are social, and we are considered mammals. Humans are created in pairs while Male and female reproduce families, families form groups to create a community, communities coproduce to create countries, and so on. This is how you actually build the strongest foundation for people to work with each other and for everyone to be able to leverage this personal relationship for their advantage. Not abusing it. Not overthrowing, over aiming or becoming selfish, but it's in our true needs that we must take advantage of every relationship. It can be an emotional benefit such as the satisfaction that our friends and family bring to your life, or it can be a partnership. That's what your better half is all about. It's all about that interpersonal connection that you've created and that is benefiting you on a daily basis.

Teamwork is also better when you know each other. Once the team members become familiar with each other, understand each other and respect each other, they start developing their own culture and then they start to agree on objectives and how to achieve them much faster. This is basically because they are not questioning other's intentions, and everyone knows with whom they are working with. Whether it's your own team, your own department, your colleagues or even working with strangers from different departments or different companies you get to know them first, and the faster you do that the faster they get to know you. Once you have established an understanding of each other, a perception in your mind start functioning better. A team has always to perform and to achieve what it is set for.

A team, that was created, has a purpose, but if the individual purpose of each team member is not clearly communicated then the team purpose will be weak. How do we strengthen this team purpose? It's by strengthening the links between the team members. As they say, “A chain is as strong as its weakest link.” The weakest member of the team is the measure of the strength of this team, and this weakest member will be the one who either communicates with the rest or shares the least or is not even willing to get to know his team members. Establishing this work culture and this team mentality helps this newly formed team or teams to start functioning like a unit. They start visualizing the better future together. They keep on motivating each other. Teaching and learning from each other, they become more efficient at resolving disputes between themselves or with other teams, they are coordinating with, and the team performance increases dramatically.

Will Smith - How do you find your purpose?

At the beginning of this team formation, when people are still not aware of each other, the limitation set in each individual mind is based on what they can achieve and what they can contribute, but when team members start knowing each other, respecting each other and appreciating each other they will also start pushing each other and this is where the blind spots are discovered. You start pushing yourself not because you're forced, but because you see others expecting more from you. They motivate you without motivational speeches just by saying the few words in the middle of sentences or passing by in a text group. Well done, wow! thank you are very small words. When they come from people that you know and appreciate, and they know and appreciate you, they become the motivational booster for your performance as an individual and as a team.

Best Methods to Build Rapport - Anthony Robbins

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