Ready To Overcome Self-Defeating Habits?
There are many ways by which we may sabotage our own lives, our happiness, our health, our success and our relationships. The variety is actually quite amazing. It may range from a garden-variety bad habit and all the way to life-threatening addictions. It may range from the habit of procrastinating, to the lack of some basic social skill, such as talking too much, to any number of obsessive/compulsive behaviors …. all the way to chronic alcoholism and drug addiction. To begin to overcome bad habits I refer you to Missing Links, pages 78, 79 ff.
Missing Links is full of very practical and surprisingly effective tools for self-transformation and behavior modification. Because most of us lead very busy lives, I show how to proceed by tiny “Baby Steps” (B/S) and in thin “salami slices” (S/S) of time. I show how to do this in all aspects of our lives … at work, at home, as we drive, as we shop, and as we play.
A FEW BASIC SECRETS
- One of the basic secrets of self-transformation is that, before we can change a self-defeating behavior, we need to learn to minimize its ? gravity, intensity and frequency ?.
- In my experience, trying to proceed too quickly and trying to find shortcuts usually only ends up being a huge waste of time and energy. We usually have to “bottom out” before we start to make any consistent progress.
- We also need to reduce the pressure on ourselves and have more pleasure and more fun. It is easier to make progress if we allow ourselves to make a game out of what we do.
- If we want to be truly happy, we need to learn to be satisfied with everything we do.
- We also need to learn to criticize ourselves less and empower ourselves more.
- Another secret of behavior modification is that: “frequency is more effective than quantity.”Playful, easy to read and a lot of fun.
- For example, I write about:
- How to use "Ring-a-Dingies."
- Creative “Beating Around the Bush.”
- The Movie in Reverse.
- The Law of the Cookie-cutter.
- Semi-Healthy and Intermediate Steps.
- Cheating Without Guilt.
- Our Relationships: “Are they Energy Boosters … or Energy Suckers?!”
- Fill’er up … P – L – E –A – S - E!
- How to proceed by "Baby Steps" and by "Thin Salami Slice" of time.
- Minimizing the Damage.(MTD).
- Trying to be as playful as little children … etc.“Crazy Wisdom”
- As you can see, there is a lot of "Crazy Wisdom" in Missing Links.
I have been inspired and guided to discover how to effectively utilize “Crazy Wisdom” by the Mythopoetic Movement which includes: Robert Bly, Michael Meade, Clarissa Pinkola Estes, Joseph Campbell many others. It was also through the Mythopoetic Movement that I was able to discovered most of the tools and processes that I share in Missing Links. These tools and processes are natural, organic, synergistic and … surprisingly effective!
If you want to learn more, look inside the book at:
https://www.amazon.com/Missing-Links-Suprisingly-Self-Transformation-Modification/dp/0615748295
I would love to have your candid feed-back and your comments.
THANK YOU
Daniel Petra