Reading the Ripple: How Your Actions Affect Everyone Around You

There is a moment in every leader’s journey when the profound weight of their influence becomes clear. It isn’t in the big decisions—the promotions, the policies, or the strategic wins. It is in the quiet, unguarded moments when your actions, your tone, even the fleeting look in your eyes, send ripples through the people around you.

And those ripples matter.

The Unseen Waves We Create

The first time I understood the ripple effect of leadership, it broke my heart. I had been leading a team through a high-stakes project. The pressure was relentless, and one morning, running late to a meeting, I brushed past one of my most dedicated team members in the hallway. She smiled at me, and I barely glanced her way, muttering a distracted "good morning." It was a small moment—one I forgot almost immediately.

Later that day, I found her sitting alone in the break room, her head down. I asked if she was okay. With hesitant vulnerability, she admitted that my earlier dismissal had left her questioning her value to the team. "I know you didn’t mean anything by it," she said, *"but I’ve been working so hard, and it felt like I didn’t matter."

That small, unintended wave I sent rippled out, leaving her in doubt and frustration. It wasn’t my intention, but intentions don’t soften the impact of a ripple once it reaches someone else.

The Science of Ripple Effects

Psychologists have studied the phenomenon of emotional contagion—how emotions spread like wildfire within teams. A Harvard Business Review study found that a leader’s mood has a 70% impact on the mood of their team. Positive energy can foster creativity, collaboration, and trust, while negativity can cause disengagement and conflict.

Even small actions—a sigh, an unreturned smile, a curt reply—can create an emotional domino effect. People interpret these cues as signals of their worth, their standing, and their safety. Over time, these ripples define a team’s culture.

The Emotional Cost of Blind Ripples

The ripples we create as leaders are inevitable. But when we are unaware of their impact, we risk causing harm:

• Eroded Trust: Dismissive or inconsistent behaviors lead teams to question their leader’s reliability.
• Lost Potential: When people feel undervalued or unseen, they withdraw—taking their best ideas and energy with them.
• Toxic Cultures: Over time, small negative ripples can snowball into pervasive dissatisfaction and disengagement.

The Elegance of Intentional Ripples

If our actions create ripples no matter what, then heart-centered leadership is about creating ripples that heal, uplift, and inspire. It is about choosing, moment by moment, to lead with intention.

Here’s how:

1. Pause Before You Act

Before responding to a question or giving feedback, take a breath. Ask yourself: What ripple am I about to create? Pausing allows you to respond with clarity and care.

• Practice: Begin meetings with a moment of stillness to ground yourself. Set an intention for how you want your energy to ripple out.

2. Mirror What You Hope to Receive

If you want your team to feel valued, seen, and empowered, embody those qualities yourself. Show up with curiosity, kindness, and gratitude.

• Practice: Replace rushed acknowledgments with genuine appreciation. Instead of saying, "Good job," say, "Your attention to detail in that report was exceptional. It made a real difference."

3. Repair the Ripples You Don’t Intend

Even the most mindful leaders will send unintended ripples. What matters is recognizing them and taking responsibility.

• Practice: When you sense you’ve caused hurt, address it directly: *"I realized my comment earlier might have come across as dismissive. That wasn’t my intention, and I’m sorry if it hurt you."

The Heart of Ripple Awareness

Leadership isn’t about perfection; it’s about presence. It’s about understanding that your words and actions carry weight, even when they feel small. It’s about knowing that every interaction is an opportunity to leave someone better than you found them.

The greatest leaders I know are those who walk through their days with a quiet reverence for the influence they carry. They understand that the ripple they create in a single moment could be the difference between someone feeling empowered or overlooked, valued or discarded.

A Ripple That Changed Me

Years after that hallway incident, I made it a habit to pause before walking into any meeting. I began intentionally noticing the people I worked with, offering a genuine smile or a simple, heartfelt acknowledgment: *"I see you. I appreciate you."

One day, the same team member I had hurt years before pulled me aside. She said, "You have no idea how much it means when you stop and really see us. It makes me want to give my best every single day."

Her words were a ripple back to me—a reminder that the small moments of leadership are the ones that matter most.

The Question You Must Ask Yourself

Every day, as you lead, you create waves. The only question is: What kind of ripples are you leaving behind? Will they uplift or diminish? Will they inspire or deflate?

The power to choose is yours. And the lives you touch—even in the smallest ways—are worth every ounce of intention you can bring.

Let your ripples be the kind that build trust, spark joy, and remind people of their worth. Let them be the kind that make the world a little gentler, a little brighter, because of you.

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Andrew Kolikoff is a master of masters in creating profits for organizations by elevating people and company cultures to become the very best they can be... more productive, more engaged, more servant hearted. He also leads an organization for servant hearted, heart centered leaders called The Secret Sauce Society.

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