The Raw Truth.
Are you okay?
Of course, I am. I'm great. Everything is fantastic! ??
Are you okay?
Yes, just, it's the first day of my period, and I feel a bit blaaaah ??
Are you okay?
Sure… we have some financial pressures... but hey, nothing I can't handle.
Are you okay?
Well, actually, on top of the above… it's the anniversary of mums dead… she took her own life, and honestly, I feel pretty shitty. ??
… being truthful feels pretty vulnerable and raw, and to be honest, it's easier to put on a performance.
To live in la la land and ignore your real feelings.
To pretend everything is okay… but it's not pretending that everything is okay to the outside world that really damages us…
...it's the pretending everything is okay to ourselves that is toxic.
We are basically lying to ourselves and...
... we're not letting ourselves feel the emotion because...
We're ashamed...
We don't want to burden others with our problems...
We don't want to be seen as weak...
We don't want to talk about (or even acknowledge) our shit because it's too painful, and when we so much as even think about it, it makes it even all the more real.
But here's the truth...
When we suppress our feelings and emotions... they're not going away...
They stick around.
And we prolong our suffering way longer than needed.
And to go even deeper, a suppressed emotion stays stuck in our body and will spread like a virus and slowly infect other areas of our life and health …
I've learned this the hard way. (I had a mini-stroke earlier this year...)
My message to you is, rather than running away from your emotions... be brave and face what you've been hiding.
Allow yourself to feel the emotions.
Be a mess.
Howl like a whale.
Cry a river.
Have a pity party.
Eat ice cream for breakfast, lunch and dinner.
Let. It. Out.
And then... Pick. Yourself. Up.
You see, this is where the magic happens.... when we let ourselves really have all the feels and let the emotions run through us... we release them.
We set ourselves free.
Of course, you'll still feel sad about things... I still feel sad when I think about my mum not being here... but the thought doesn't feel heavy anymore... it almost has a lightness to it.
I hope you feel empowered to face what you've hidden away.
Note: always seek professional help and support when needed.
Much love and courage.
Caroline De Kimpe
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