The Raw Leader vs. The TEDx Tryhard: Why Unfiltered Wins Every Time
Samer Taher
Board Director | Editor-at-large | But most of all, I write The Elephant in the Office newsletter.
Style-wise, leadership comes in two flavors: the raw, unfiltered firebrand who says it like it is, and the politically correct TEDx disciple who’s memorized every “5 Tips to Inspire” talk since 2015. The former storms through the office like a desert wind, kicking up sand and shaking complacency; the latter tiptoes around with buzzwords like “synergy” and “pivot,” hoping nobody notices the emperor’s got no clothes. Spoiler alert: in the real world, raw beats rehearsed every time. Here’s why the unfiltered leader’s the one you want steering your ship through the storm.
Meet Rawad, the raw leader. He’s the guy who strides into the boardroom, after-shave trailing like a battle cry, and calls out the elephant in the room before the projector is even on. “This Q4 plan is a camel with three humps—it won’t make it,” he declares while the team blinks in stunned silence. No fluff, no filter, just truth with a side of spice. Now meet Talal, the TEDx tryhard. He’s got a vision board in his office, a stack of self-help books on “authentic leadership,” and a habit of starting meetings with “Let’s circle back to our core values.” Everyone nods politely, but half the room’s doodling and the other half is on WhatsApp. Guess who gets the real work done?
First virtue of the raw leader: they cut through the noise like a Shogun’s blade. In this part of the world, where relationships are king and small talk’s an Olympic sport, there’s a lot of hot air—diplomatic dodging, vague “inshallahs,” endless consensus loops. Rawad doesn’t play that game. He’ll tell Ahmed from Finance the budget is a fantasy faster than you can say “expense report.” It’s not rudeness; it’s clarity. When time’s tighter than a Riyadh traffic jam, you don’t need a 20-minute preamble—you need a leader who says, “Fix it, or we’re toast,” and means it. Raw leaders don’t just speak—they strike.
Contrast that with Talal, who’s so busy applying TEDx tip #3 (“Always affirm before you advise”) that he’s got the team drowning in compliments while the ship sinks. “I really appreciate your effort on this, Khaled, but let’s reimagine the deliverables through a lens of innovation,” he drones, as Khaled mentally checks out and orders shawarma on Careem. Politically correct leaders think they’re building trust, but they’re building boredom. In the real world, where execs juggle 17 priorities and a family iftar on the same day, nobody’s got time for platitudes. They want direction, not a TED Talk.
Second virtue: raw leaders breed loyalty through realness. Rawad’s not afraid to admit when he’s wrong—he’ll laugh, slap the table, and say, “Okay, Habibi, I flubbed that one; let’s pivot.” That honesty’s magnetic. When he praises your work, you know it’s legit, not some script from “How to Motivate Millennials.” He’s the guy who’ll stay late with the team to crack a client crisis, cracking jokes about his own typos while you’re all fueled by stale manaeesh. In the office, where trust is currency, that rawness buys more allegiance than any employee engagement survey. People don’t follow Rawad because he’s nice—they follow him because he’s real.
Talal, on the other hand, is so busy being “inclusive” and “empathetic” (thanks, TEDx tip #7) that he’s lost the plot. He’s got a suggestion box nobody uses, a “safe space” nobody needs, and a habit of over-apologizing that makes Faisal from Marketing roll his eyes. “I’m sorry if my feedback felt misaligned with our collective vision,” he murmurs, while Faisal mutters, “Just tell me what to fix, bro.” Politically correct leaders think they’re fostering harmony, but they’re fostering frustration. The Board wants a captain, not a counselor.
Third virtue: raw leaders thrive in chaos, and the corporate world is nothing if not chaotic. Between last-minute client demands, holiday calendar curveballs, and WhatsApp groups that explode at 2 a.m., this region’s a sandstorm of surprises. Rawad’s in his element here—he’ll bark orders, rally the troops, and charm a supplier into overnight delivery with a mix of grit and grins. He doesn’t need a TEDx script to navigate a crisis; he’s got instinct. When the projector dies mid-pitch, he’ll sketch the plan on a napkin and win the room anyway. That’s leadership you can’t teach in a 17-minute talk.
Talal, bless him, panics when the script fails. He’s got a “3-Step Resilience Framework” taped to his desk, but when the Wi-Fi cuts out during a Zoom call, he’s stammering through “Let’s lean into this challenge!” while the client logs off. Politically correct leaders crumble when the playbook doesn’t fit—they’re so busy being perfect that they forget how to be present. In the office, where adaptability is the name of the game, that’s a death knell.
The elephant in the office? Raw leaders aren’t just better—they’re necessary. The corporate game isn’t a TEDx stage; it’s a forum where real talk reigns. Rawad’s unfiltered style builds trust, drives results, and keeps it real in a world that’s already drowning in buzzwords. Talal might look good on LinkedIn, but Rawad’s the one you call when the #@$% hits the fan. So, fellow leaders, ditch the TEDx tips and channel your inner Rawad. Be raw, be real, and watch your team follow you through the sandstorm—laughing all the way.
Business Coach at Self Employed
3 小时前Thank you Samer...So insightful... Could there be an option where both flavors work depending on the nature of the job?