"Raising Tomorrow's Leaders: How Savoir-Vivre Shapes Patience and Resilience in Kids"

In an era dominated by rapid changes and technological advancements, the enduring principles of savoir-vivre – the art of living well with good manners – are more vital than ever in the development of future leaders. As a Psychotherapist, Master Executive Coach and mother to a 10- and 11-year-old, I have observed the profound impact of these principles, rooted in patience and resilience, on the shaping of young leaders.

Understanding Savoir-Vivre and Leadership

Savoir-vivre is more than just an etiquette; it embodies deeper values like empathy, respect, integrity, and effective communication, essential for effective leadership (Goleman, 1998). For children, learning these values involves observing and imitating those around them – a concept supported by Bandura's social learning theory (1977).

The Connection Between Savoir-Vivre and Patience

Patience is a critical leadership skill, encompassing the ability to listen, reflect, and act thoughtfully (Maxwell, 2007). Teaching children patience involves encouraging them to wait their turn, understand the importance of delayed gratification (Mischel, 2014), and think before acting. Engaging in team sports or collaborative projects can be effective in developing these skills.

Building Resilience Through Savoir-Vivre

Resilience, or the ability to metabolise difficulties, is essential for leaders (Reivich & Shatté, 2002). Children develop resilience by facing and adapting to challenges. Encouraging them to try new activities, face academic challenges, and navigate social dynamics can foster resilience.

Practical Applications and Strategies

Teaching children about savoir-vivre, patience, and resilience involves everyday practices. Family meals, where everyone shares their experiences, can teach empathy and listening skills. Setting and respecting boundaries teaches respect and integrity. Allowing children to solve their problems, with guidance, fosters decision-making skills and resilience (Bronfenbrenner, 1979).

The Long-Term Benefits for Children

The mastery of savoir-vivre, patience, and resilience prepares children not just for leadership roles but for life in general. These skills enhance their relationships, academic pursuits, and professional lives (Covey, 1989). We're nurturing future leaders capable of navigating complex social and professional landscapes.

In conclusion, as we guide the next generation, let's focus on instilling the timeless value of savoir-vivre, to further enhance patience and resilience.

“Leadership is not about being in charge. It's about taking care of those in your charge.” - Simon Sinek

References

• Goleman, D. (1998). Working with emotional intelligence.
• Bandura, A. (1977). Social Learning Theory.
• Maxwell, J. C. (2007). The 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership.
• Mischel, W. (2014). The Marshmallow Test: Mastering Self-Control.
• Reivich, K., & Shatté, A. (2002). The Resilience Factor.
• Bronfenbrenner, U. (1979). The Ecology of Human Development.
• Covey, S. R. (1989). The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People.