Raising children between Islam and psychology - part one -

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General knowledge about the upbringing in Islam

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1 - The Physical upbringing in Islam ( Nutrition - sports - sex)

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2 - The cognitive Upbringing in Islam ( belief - worldly sciences)

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3 - The Spiritual Upbringing in Islam ( How he will worship God in Islam)

Raising children between Islam and psychology. Is there a contradiction? Is there a discord? What is the relationship then? Islam came approximately 1446 years ago, and psychology is a relatively new science. How can this science confirm what Islam brought? Perhaps someone said that Islam has a strict approach to upbringing, and psychology is based on the West and does not care much about strictness. The truth is that in this file we have chosen every type of Islamic upbringing for children and its corresponding psychology in terms of the benefit expected from such upbringing. The main question that is best answered in this file is who taught the illiterate Prophet Muhammad, may God bless him and grant him peace, who did not read or write such matters that psychologists praise today and perhaps the recent past ... Let's begin.        

The Islamic Perspective        

Who is a Child?

For a child in the language

The youngest of all or the newborn, plural: children

The child in Islamic term

A description that accompanies a person from birth to reaching puberty

Who is an adolescent?

The boy who is approaching puberty

Thee adolescence

The period from puberty to adulthood

The Psychological Perspective        

Who is a child?

Children are people under the age of 14. However, it should be noted that Article 1 of the United Nations Convention on the Rights of the Child defines “children” as people who have reached the age of 18.

Who is a teenager? And when does adolescence end?

The adolescence is the age group between childhood and adulthood, from ages 10 to 19. It is a unique stage of human development and an important time to lay the foundations for good health.

Another team of psychologists

The adolescence currently lasts from ten to 24 years, according to a team of scientists, although many believe it ends at the age of 19

Islam: The basic principles of upbringing        

1 - Naming the newborn

Allah says

???????? ??????????? ??????? ????? ?????? ??????????? ??????? ????????? ???????? ????? ???????? ???????? ????????? ???????????? ? ???????? ???????????? ???????? ???????? ?????????? ???? ??????????????? ???? ???????????? ?????????? (36)

And when she delivered her, she said, "My Lord, indeed I have delivered a female." And God knows best what she delivered. And the male is not like the female, and indeed, I have named her Maruim, and indeed, I seek refuge for her and her offspring in You from Satan, the accursed. (36)

The Comment

Imran's wife - may God be pleased with her - was astonished that she gave birth to a daughter and not a son, as she intended to make him a servant of the Holy House, and she saw him as a daughter and did not object or scream or as some women do, but rather accepted God's gift, but she made excuses that she would not be like a man in strength in serving the Holy House, but she became better than many men, and she said to God Almighty, and I named her Maruim, and Maruim in the language means: (The beautiful, beloved, religiously committed girl who loves to help the people around her, and who symbolizes everything that is pure and chaste. The name Maruim also means the devout, worshipful girl who serves her Lord in His homes in the Hebrew language.) And because we, as Arabs, believe that: every person has a share of his name, the Virgin Maruim had a share of her name, and this indicates the preference for choosing good names for children.

It was narrated that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said:

You will be called on the Day of Resurrection by your names and the names of your fathers, so make your names good. Narrated by Abu Dawood

The Comment

It is not permissible in Islam to use obscene names or names that will later cause shame on the wearer.

2 - The supplication for the offspring and let them hear that

Allah says

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{And We have enjoined upon man, to his parents, good treatment. His mother carried him with hardship and gave birth to him with hardship, and his gestation and weaning [period] is thirty months, until, when he reaches maturity and reaches forty years, he says, "My Lord, enable me to be grateful for Your favor which You have bestowed upon me and upon my parents." {And that I do righteousness that pleases You, and make righteous for me my offspring. Indeed, I repent to You, and indeed, I am of the Muslims.}

The Comment

The Holy Verse guides us to pray for 3 successive generations

1- Supplication for parents (That I may be grateful for Your blessings which You have bestowed upon me and upon my parents)

2- Supplication for oneself (And that I may do righteous deeds)

3- Supplication for offspring (Reform my offspring for me)

Then declare sincere repentance and declare Islam between him and God Almighty

On the authority of Ibn Abbas, may God be pleased with him and satisfy him

The Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, embraced me and said, “O God, teach him the Book.” Narrated by Al-Bukhari

The Comment

The cousin of the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace (Ibn Abbas) was younger than the Messenger of God, so he took him and hugged him and said to him, “O God, teach him the Book.” This is an indication of supplication for any child of the family and in front of his ears.

In Bukhari, on the authority of Usama, the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace

would sit me and Al-Hasan bin Ali and say: O God, I love them, so love them.

The Comment

Having children hear supplications for them, not against them, has the greatest effect on the souls of these children, as they say about it today ( the affirmations) such as I am beautiful, I am invincible...etc.

3 - The upbringing by instilling praiseworthy qualities

While Abdullah bin Al-Zubayr was a six-year-old child, he was playing with children in Medina. The Commander of the Faithful, Omar, passed by them while they were playing, and when they saw him, each one of them ran in a direction to hide, except for a small child who stood looking at Omar bin Al-Khattab. Our Master Omar stood in front of the boy and knelt on his knees with all humility for this little boy, then said to him: My son, why did you not run like the rest of the children? The six-year-old boy said to him: “O Commander of the Faithful, the road is not narrow to widen it for you, and I am not a criminal to be afraid of you.” Our Master Omar smiled at the elegance and eloquence of this child, and asked him about his name, saying: Who are you? The child said: I am Abdullah bin Al-Zubayr. Our Master Omar said to him: Ibn Al-Awwam? The child said: Yes. Our Master Omar kissed the boy’s hand and head and prayed for blessings for him. By God, I know that Abdullah bin Al-Zubayr - may God be pleased with him - was the first born to the Muslims in Medina in the first year of the blessed Prophet’s migration.

The Comment

This is Omar bin Al-Khattab (the Commander of the Faithful) at this time and the sixth of six who entered Islam, when the devil passed by a way where Omar was, he would take another way out of fear of him, in today’s language (the head of state - a king of kings) kneeling on his knees in amazement and admiration for a child who was no more than 6 years old, thus the generations rise to the generation of leaders and it was, may God be pleased with all the companions.

4 - Teaching the child to bear responsibility

On the authority of Thabit, on the authority of Anas bin Malik, may God be pleased with him, who said:

While I was playing with the boys, he greeted us and sent me on an errand. I was delayed in reaching my mother, so when I came she said: What kept you? I said: The Messenger of God - may God bless him and grant him peace - sent me on an errand. She said: What is his errand? I said: It is a secret!! She said: Do not tell the secret of the Messenger of God - may God bless him and grant him peace - to anyone. Anas said: By God, if I were to tell it to anyone, I would tell it to you, O Thabit. Agreed upon, and the wording is from Muslim.

The Comment

This mother is the one whom the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, recommends a lot in the Sunnah and in the recited Qur’an, but this is the secret of the Messenger of God, and here the boy learns from the secrets of the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, for him and not for other boys, that he has a great secret that no one, whoever he may be, should know, even if it is his mother, even if this contradicts our thinking today, except that this is the Messenger of God and not just anyone, the idea lies in choosing a boy and confiding in him a secret, making him feel that he is more loved, making him feel that he is important, making him feel that he bears responsibility.

5- Setting boundaries for the child such as (not lying)

On the authority of Abdullah bin Aamer, may God be pleased with him, who said:

“My mother called me one day while the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, was sitting in our house. She said: Come here, I will give you something. The Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, said to her: (What do you want to give him?) She said: Give him a date!! The Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, said to her: (If you had not given him anything, a lie would have been recorded against you.) Narrated by Abu Dawood.

The Comment

The correction of visions, speech and actions at the moment from the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, to the mother of Abdullah bin Aamer - may God be pleased with him - and in this there is an indication that is not only corrective for the mother, but also casting understanding from God into the ears of the young boy, and that he should not hear lies or accept them even in something like a date from his mother.

The psychology: The basic principles of upbringing        

The Principles of Educational Psychology for Children

What you do matters

Whether it’s your healthy behavior or the way you treat others, your children learn from what you do. “This is one of the most important principles

Establish and set rules

“If you can’t manage your child’s behavior when they’re young, they’ll have a hard time learning how to manage themselves when they’re older and when you’re not around.

Foster your child’s independence

“Setting boundaries helps your child develop a sense of self-control. Encouraging independence helps them develop a sense of self-direction. To succeed in life, they’ll need both.”

Treat your child with respect

“The best way to get respect from your child is to treat them with respect. You should treat your child with the same courtesies you’d give anyone else.

You can’t be too loving

“It’s simply impossible to spoil a child with love,” “What we often think of as the result of pampering a child is never the result of showing too much love to a child. It’s usually the result of giving the child things, rather than love—things like indulgence, lowered expectations, or material possessions.”

The Islam point of view: The first seven years of a child's life        

Acting childishly for him

On the authority of Jabalah bin Suhaim, who said

I entered upon Muawiyah bin Abi Sufyan - while he was in his caliphate - and he had a rope around his neck, and a boy was leading him, so I said to him: O Commander of the Faithful, do you do this? He said: O Lakaa, be silent, for I heard the Messenger of God (may God bless him and grant him peace) say: “Whoever has a boy, let him childishly towards him.”

The Comment

To speak to them in their broken language, or to come down to their level and speak to them, etc.

On the authority of Anas - may God be pleased with him -

who said: “The Messenger of God - may God bless him and grant him peace - was the best of people in character. I had a brother called Abu Umair - I think he said: he was weaned - he said: So whenever the Messenger of God - may God bless him and grant him peace - came and saw him, he would say: O Abu Umair, what did the nughayr - a small bird like a sparrow - do? He said: So he used to play with it.” Narrated by Muslim.

The Comment

Abu Umair had just been weaned. Whenever the Messenger of Allah (PBUH) would enter the household of Anas (may Allah be pleased with him), Abu Umair’s brother, he would talk to the boy, who was no more than two years old, for example. He would talk to him about his little bird and ask about the bird’s condition, because he knew that the bird was something important to Umair. What kind of respect was this for a little child, whom the Messenger of Allah (PBUH) gave a position to, even though he was no more than two years old?

The mercy on him

He was noticeably late in prostration, and when he was asked about the reason after the prayer, he said: ((My son climbed on top of me while I was prostrating, so I did not want to rush him)), and the one who did that was Al-Hasan, the son of his daughter Fatima, may God be pleased with them all.

The comment

Look at the wording: “I hated to rush him.” He left the people to worry about prayer, until the child took all his needs from playing on the back of the Messenger of God.

Joking Ibn Saad narrated on the authority of Abu Salamah ibn Abd al-Rahman who said

The Messenger of God (may God bless him and grant him peace) would stick out his tongue for al-Hasan ibn Ali, and when the boy saw the redness of his tongue, he would be delighted, and his features would lighten up.

Peace be upon them if he passes by them

The Prophet (PBUH) passed by children playing.. and said to them: “Peace be upon you, O children”

The comment

A kind of respect, they are the men and women of tomorrow, and respecting them is a kind of giving value and feeling self-esteem since childhood

Hear him that you love him

Al-Baraa (may Allah be pleased with him) said: I saw the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) and Al-Hasan bin Ali on his shoulder saying: “O Allah, I love him, so love him.

The comment

As if he were talking out loud, the child does not understand anything other than love at this age, that he is loved, so he is socially acceptable, which makes him very keen to do positive things so that he remains loved

Reprimanding a child from bad deeds

Ibn Omar (may Allah be pleased with them) entered upon Yahya bin Saeed and a young boy from Bani Yahya who was tying up a chicken to throw it. Ibn Omar walked towards it until he untie it, then he came back with it and the boy with him and said: Reprimand your boy to be patient with this bird to be killed, for I heard the Prophet forbid that an animal or anything else be patient with being killed.

The comment

Being young does not mean that you should not be reprimanded for doing something bad, especially with animals that children love to try to harm at a young age, so they must be reprimanded.

Respecting him and asking him about his feelings

On the authority of Sahl ibn Sa`id, may God be pleased with him, who said: The Prophet was brought a cup, so he drank from it, and on his right was a young boy, the youngest of the people, and the elders were on his left. He said: O boy, do you give me permission to give it to the elders? He said: I would not prefer anyone over you, O Messenger of God. So he gave it to him.

The psychology: The point of view: The first seven years of a child's life        

The First Seven Years of a Child

The question of whether the first seven years of life are the most important is not one of definite or clear-cut. The hardships or traumas a child experiences do not necessarily determine the child’s overall well-being or the success they will achieve as an adult. While the first seven years may not be the be-all and end-all when it comes to whether a child develops in a healthy way, they are important, especially when it comes to topics like social development.

While the first seven years of a child’s life do not necessarily determine their lifelong happiness levels, they do lay the foundation for how they interact with the world by processing the way others respond to them.

The Mapping

In the Early Years of Life, the Brain Rapidly Develops a Mapping System Harvard data shows that the brain develops rapidly during the first years of life. By the time children are 3 years old, they have already formed a million neural connections every minute. These connections become the brain’s mapping system, which is made up of a combination of nature and nurture, especially “serve and give” interactions.

The attachment styles influence how future relationships develop

Attachment styles are another important part of a child’s development

They stem from the work of psychologist Mary Ainsworth. In 1969, Ainsworth conducted research known as the “Strange Situation.” She observed how babies reacted when their mothers left the room, as well as how they responded when she returned. Based on her observations, she concluded that there were four attachment styles that babies can have: Secure Anxious-Insecure Anxious-Avoidant Disorganized

Islam: The upbringing with love and hugs        

4/225 - On the authority of Abu Hurairah, may God be pleased with him, who said: The Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, kissed Al-Hasan ibn Ali, may God be pleased with them both.

And with him was Al-Aqra’ bin Habis, so Al-Aqra’ said: I have ten children and I have never kissed any of them. So the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, looked at him and said: He who does not show mercy will not be shown mercy. Agreed upon.

The comment

The Arab Muslim companion (Al-Aqra’ bin Habis) may Allah be pleased with him was surprised by our Master the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) kissing his grandson, and he said his famous statement (I have ten children...) The strange thing is that the Messenger of Allah did not rebuke him for that, but rather corrected his thinking as is the habit of the Messenger of Allah, and he said to him: He who does not show mercy will not be shown mercy) indicating that kissing children is a mercy from the mercy of the Most Gracious, and he who does not show mercy to the young is not one of the Muslims, like the hadith of the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him): He is not one of us who does not show mercy to our young and recognize the rights of our old. This is a saheeh hadith according to the conditions of Muslim.

5/226 - On the authority of Aisha, may God be pleased with her, she said:

They said: Do you kiss your children? He said: Yes. They said: But by Allah, we do not kiss. The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said: What do I have control over if Allah has removed mercy from your hearts? Agreed upon.

On the authority of Ya`la ibn Murrah, may Allah be pleased with him, he said:

“I went out with the Prophet and we were invited to a meal, and there was Al-Hussein bin Ali playing in the road, so the Prophet ran ahead of the people and then stretched out his hands to catch him, and the boy started running here and there, and the Messenger of God was chasing him and laughing with him until he caught him, and he put one hand on his chin and the other on his head, then he embraced him and then turned to us and said: Al-Hussein is from me and I am from Al-Hussein” (Narrated by Imam Ahmad, Ibn Majah and Al-Bukhari)

The comment

Teasing Al-Hussein - may God be pleased with him - and following him right and left until he embraced him and made him hear that he is from him and he is from him - may God bless him and grant him peace, a kind of pure love for the dear grandson

Psychology: The upbringing with love and hugs        

Amazing Benefits of Hugging Parenting

1 - Hugs Help Babies Grow Smarter

The researchers found that babies who received 20 minutes of human touch every day for 10 weeks scored higher on developmental assessments than those who didn’t. Not all types of touch were beneficial. Only nurturing touch like a gentle hug can provide the kind of positive stimulation a young brain needs to grow healthily

3 - Hugs as Physical Contact

Hugs Help Babies Grow Babies who are deprived of physical contact are considered essential for a child’s physical development. Doctors have found that when they don’t get physical contact, their bodies stop growing despite taking in nutrients normally. This condition is called failure to thrive.

4 - Hugging keeps kids healthy

Hugging releases oxytocin, a hormone with amazing power that provides many benefits to our bodies. For example, increased oxytocin levels can strengthen our immune system by lowering thyroid hormone levels and reducing inflammation that causes wounds. Hugging can calm a toddler who is having a tantrum faster than their parents.

5 - Hugging builds resilience

Studies show that excessive exposure to stress hormones can damage a child’s immune system, which in life can lead to more illness. Excessive stress affects memory and quantitative reasoning abilities. Later, any involvement can lead to depression as the child grows up. Hugging an unregulated child not only helps them regulate their emotions but also allows them to experience their emotions being regulated, which helps them become more resilient by reducing the negative impact of conflict.

Hugging Boosts Self-Esteem

Hugging is beneficial for things like optimism, mastery, and self-esteem, individual differences that directly predict physical and mental health, and optimism refers to the extent to which people hold positive expectations about the future.

Hugging Boosts Self-Confidence

Trust is essential in building a strong personality. Oxytocin increases an individual’s willingness to reduce fear, accept risks, and trust others to improve relationships. It also increases the security of child attachment, leading to secure attachment and improved parent-child bonding.

Islam: The upbringing with play        

Allah says

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They said, "O our father, why do you not trust us with Joseph while we are his sincere advisers? Send him with us tomorrow that he may enjoy and play, and we will surely guard him." He said, "Indeed, it grieves me that you should take him away, and I fear that a wolf may eat him while you are of him unaware." [Yusuf: 11-13]

Jacob (PBUH) would not have left Joseph (PBUH) with his brothers except for a great goal and a noble purpose that would have an impact on his preparation and upbringing, which was playing.

Hadith of Abu Hurairah: Abu Hurairah

may God be pleased with him, said: “We used to pray the ‘Isha’ prayer with the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace. When he prostrated, al-Hasan and al-Husayn would jump on his back. When he raised his head, he would take them by the hand from behind him gently and place them on the ground. When he returned, they would return until he finished his prayer.” Narrated by Ahmad and classed as hasan by al-Albani.

Muslim narrated on the authority of Ibn Iyas

on the authority of his father, may God be pleased with him, who said: “I led the Prophet of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, and al-Hasan and al-Husayn on his grey mule, until I brought them into the room of the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, one in front of him and one behind him.”

In the narration of Muslim:

I saw the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) leading the people in prayer, and Umamah bint Abi Al-Aas was on his shoulder. When he bowed, he put her down, and when he rose from prostration, he put her back.

The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) passed by a group of people from Aslam who were competing in archery

He said: “The Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said: Shoot, O children of Ismail, for your father was an archer. Shoot, and I am with the children of so-and-so.” One of the two groups grabbed their hands, and the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said: “Why do you not shoot?” They said: “O Messenger of Allah, we shoot and you are with them.” He said: “Shoot and I will be with you all.” (Bukhari)

On the authority of Al-Bara’ bin ‘Azib - may God be pleased with him - he said: The Messenger of God - may God bless him and grant him peace - was praying, then Al-Hasan and Al-Hussain came, or one of them - may God be pleased with them - and he rode on his back, When he raised his head, he would point with his hand, and he would hold it, or he would hold them both, and say: “What a good mount you both are, The Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, said: “They are two excellent riders, and their father is better than them” (Al-Tabarani).

Anas bin Malik - may God be pleased with him - said

The Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, was one of the best people in character. One day he sent me on an errand, and I said: By God! I did not go, and I had in mind that I should go for what the Prophet of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) had commanded me to do. So I went out until I passed by some children playing in the market, and suddenly the Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) grabbed my neck from behind. He said: I looked at him and he was laughing, and he said: O Unais! Did you go where I commanded you? He said: I said: Yes, I am going, O Messenger of God (Muslim). The Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, did not disapprove of his playing with the children despite his delay in fulfilling the request he had sent him for.

The comment

We know that the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, from his noble Sunnah (saying + action + approval) means that he sees the children playing and plays, or lets them play in serious situations (such as prayer) orHe laughs, like when he belittled the word Anas to Anis when he says, “I am going to do what you command me, O Messenger of God,” indicating the Messenger of God’s approval of the Muslim child’s right to play.

Psychology: The upbringing with play        

The Importance of Free Play for Kids

There are huge gains in letting kids be kids. If you’re constantly running from one activity to another and your kids’ schedules are overloaded, consider adding some free, unstructured play for your kids to explore their imaginations and the things around them.

Benefits of Free, Unstructured Play

Stimulate Early Brain Development

Children’s play can boost brain development in several ways, including providing a child with a better understanding of the world and laying the foundation for later brain development. Neuroscientists have discovered that play and games can change brain chemistry and a child’s development. The area of the brain associated with higher cognitive processing (the cerebral cortex) can benefit from environmental enrichment

Improve Intelligence

A study from the University of Arkansas showed that regularly exposing children to toys to play with led to higher IQs by the time they reached age 3. Psychologist Edward Fisher analyzed 46 studies on play. He found that play can enhance a child’s cognitive, linguistic, and social development.

Ignites Creative Thinking

A B Perhaps the most obvious benefit of play is that it increases a child’s creativity. Creativity is closely linked to divergent thinking, the thinking process that explores multiple possible solutions and generates new ideas.

Improve communication, vocabulary, and language

The link between early play and later communication skills One study sought to understand whether communication could benefit from play. Researchers looked at what happened when an infant began playing with a toy. They found that by playing with and naming the toys, the child—when tested three months later—had better language skills.

Enhancing impulse control and emotional regulation

Self-regulation is one of the most important skills for school readiness. Well-organized children can wait their turn, resist the temptation to grab things from other children, manage negative emotions, and persist through challenging activities. They found that children who had more pretend play with their caregivers were better at regulating their emotions to continue playing

Developing Social Competence and Emotion

Play is crucial to fostering social development in children. Active, unstructured play with others—including parents, siblings, and peers—is an important opportunity to develop social skills. Psychologists have found that the amount and complexity of imaginative play by preschoolers significantly predicted their social skills and popularity, as well as their prosocial activity.

Islam: The upbringing with Respect         

Malik, on the authority of Abu Hazim bin Dinar, on the authority of Sahl bin Saad Al-Sa'idi

The Messenger of Allah - may Allah bless him and grant him peace - was brought a drink and he drank from it, and on his right was a boy and on his left were the elders, so he said to the boy: Do you give me permission to give it to these people? He said: No, by Allah [p. 121] O Messenger of Allah, I will not give my share of you to anyone, so the Messenger of Allah - may Allah bless him and grant him peace - give it in his hand.

The comment

This is just a boy: A boy in Arabic has not reached puberty, he is too young to have his opinion taken into account in the matter at all, and the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, starts with him simply because he sits to the right of the Messenger of God, and we notice who sits in the gatherings of the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace? (He is like a king or a president) the elite of the people, the companions who are older in age and position, and yet the Prophet speaks to the boy and asks him about his opinion, so in this there is upbringing with respect, and in this there is upbringing for the companions on how to deal with the young

Psychology: The upbringing with Respect         

The Benefits of Respecting Your Child

Should Parents Respect Their Children?

Yes. Parents should respect their children because this is how the child will learn to respect themselves. Parents are the first and most important role models for the child in everything they do now and in the future. The relationship between a child and their parents has a profound impact on the child’s development in life. Your voice becomes their inner voice Respect creates the foundation for your image Respect is the foundation for their self-image Respect forms their inner compass Others will respect your child when they feel respected You will be proud of the person your child will become

At the end of this file: We wanted to remind the honorable reader: that there is no contradiction between relatively modern psychology, and the Holy Quran and the pure Sunnah, whose history extends back more than 1446 years. We only tried to choose the psychology that is consistent with our religious beliefs...        

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