Really Knowing Yourself

Hi there!? ? ?

I want to chat with you today about how deeply you know yourself.??

We think we know ourselves.? I mean nobody knows us like we know ourselves . . . right???

Well, that might not be true.??

Have you noticed that there is a constant conversation going on in your head?? That voice is often full of crap.? It is honestly trying to tell you its truth rather than the truth.?

And, it is important for your personal development to understand this voice isn't here to help you grow and expand.? It is here to keep you safe.?

And safe means small.??

You, my friend, are here to grow, expand, and evolve.??

As a Coach, I am doing my personal work every day whether I want to or not (wink).? My life can get just as crunchy and complicated as yours.? And when that happens I am so grateful that I have coaching tools to help me navigate those rough waters.??

The past several years have taught me so much about myself and humans.?

And just like when I work with you, I spend much of my energy and focus on uncovering and unpacking all the stuff in the way of experiencing my true self.? My best self.??

I don't expect to be at my best self 100% of the time.? My goal is just north of 50%.??

How about you?? What is your goal for yourself?????

We can either take responsibility and direct the changes in our life, or life will direct the changes.

When it is a time of confusion, and chaos and feels so out of my control I try to surrender and ride the waves.???

Quieting the external noise to hear my own wisdom.??

Listening to my needs and navigating life.?

From the inside and out.??

When our outer world is shifting you can guarantee that our inner world is doing the same.??

When big change happens it can feel so foreign.?

Like something is wrong with you.??

It isn’t.?

You are just rising to meet yourself in a new way.??

This is what I have to remind myself sometimes daily.??

I am rising to meet myself in a new way.??

I invite you to be gentle with yourself and practice this as a mantra each time you enter a new phase of something new.? I am rising to meet myself in a new way.??

Finding yourself is not really how it works.??You aren’t a $10 bill in last Winter's coat pocket. You are also not lost. Your true self is right there. Buried under cultural conditioning, other people's opinions, and inaccurate conclusions you drew as a kid and your beliefs about who you are. Finding yourself is actually a returning to yourself. An unlearning. An excavation. A remembering of who you were before the world got it's hands-on you.?Emily McDowell

You have not lost anything . . . you have covered it up with stuff.? You can’t lose who you really are.

Hey, being human is damn tough sometimes.??

We can not control everything that happens in our lives.? Yet, we can learn to navigate it with greater skill.??

First, you will need to truly know who you are.? How you are innately designed and what you value.??

You won’t be able to do this during a commercial break while driving in traffic, or on your lunch break.? It will require dedication and time.? Real transformation (which is the best dopamine high you could imagine) will require you to make the decision that you are ready.??

As a coach, one way I assess if a client is coachable is by identifying if they are ready and willing.

Ask yourself the following questions.

• Am I ready to love myself enough to focus on myself???
• Am I ready to invest in myself and my future in time, money, and energy???
• Am I willing to do my personal work???

Nobody can do it for you.? However, I can give you the map and be your guide.??

So what is next?

Are you ready to direct the changes in your life?

If you would like to jump on a Discovery call to see how I might be able to support you in designing a more meaningful life, then here is my calendar.? No obligation, just 30 minutes with me.?

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