Pushing past your perceived limits

So many of you have been asking how the Tony Robbins Unleash the Power Within event has gone and what was involved. I've really struggled to put into words exactly what this is all about and what I’ve been through from Thursday to Sunday (for a total of 54 hours might I add). So here goes.

I love to push myself and I’m known as a ‘glutton for punishment’ at times but I love to do things that push me out of my comfort zone to really challenge myself in various aspects of life. This is completely backed up by past decisions I have made (not all for the greater good) but I am fully aware that doing things like this is how I can grow. The training never stops. You keep moving to the next level. Don’t get me wrong, there are times I let my own limiting beliefs override my mindset which has held me back. Fear kills more dreams than failure ever will. So, I decided to enroll on the program to put myself through a fully immersive virtual experience with Tony and his team and to understand more about Human Psychology, retraining my biochemistry, who I really am, my inner fears (and learning to crush them), allowing me to discover the obstacles both from outside circumstances and within myself that have been holding me back and how to create that last change in my life. “KNOWLEDGE ISNT POWER. APPLIED KNOWLEDGE IS POWER”. Empowerment doesn’t happen if you do not apply or instill it into who you are, to your identity, in order to create that sustainable and lasting change.

Friends and family thought I was crazy to do this, especially after the obstacles I’ve faced in recent months. There were times that I felt things were failing apart. Like a domino effect. One thing after another. But I pushed past when my mind, body and soul told me "you have nothing left to give". I was exhausted. I felt I had been so strong for so long and I was finally hitting my threshold. But I kept going. This process has thought me that I WAS NOT falling apart. I was breaking through.

Once you have been through extreme stress, you almost become vaccinated to it. When you push through it, you find out what you are truly capable of. My resilience has stood to me to date and this journey for me demonstrates the importance of mindset and having that resilience. The ability to pull yourself back when you feel your emotional state shift. This experience has given me the strategies and the tools to unleash my inner potential and power. To unlock the forces inside of me that can help me break through any limit and create the quality of life I desire. I’ve been trained by the best in the business and learned how to surpass my own limitations to achieve my goals and take control of my life. The quality of my life is directly impacted by the quality of my emotions.

Not So Fun Fact - If we spend 20 minutes being annoyed with someone, it suppresses the immune system for up to 4 hours!

I now know how to NOT return to my emotional home. That place that I would sometimes default to when things felt overwhelming. The anxiety that would build up, feeling like it was consuming me. That negative or suffering mindset. Our emotional home is the place we all go back to no matter what happens. And some of us have homes that are more painful than pleasurable. So why would we go there? Because it’s what we know. We default to that because that’s all we know. Some people’s emotional habits are what drive them. If we continually focus on the suffering emotions or what’s missing in our lives, that will become our default state of mind. We fully immersed in this during The Dickens Process. An extremely powerful and emotional experience. But I’ve learned to let go. I know where my gaps are and what I must do to thrive on this journey and sustain momentum.

I have learned that life has been happening for me, not to me. It’s my job to find out why. It’s my job to find that deeper meaning. Over the last year I been trying to embrace my journey and really work on myself. No one else can do it for me. Only me. I cannot save someone else if I’m suffering. I have to help myself before I can help anyone else. Attending UPW has really anchored this in for me. I now have more clarity. More perspective. More appreciation. I am proud of me. I am proud of who I am. I am proud of the Mum I have become to my little boy. I am learning to find the gift in everything that has happened in my life. I wouldn’t be where I am today or who I am if it wasn’t for the pain, the problems, and the injustices. The only way out of suffering is appreciation. Appreciating what I have and what is there right in front of me and trading my expectations for appreciation. I am grateful for my past. I wouldn’t change a single thing about it. I am grateful for all the suffering and pain I have experienced. The scars mentally and emotionally. I have learned to understand the deeper meaning behind it all. When you shift your focus to appreciation instead of loss, you will train your brain to find the beauty in things. My past does not define me. But holy crap it’s made me so strong!

“Emotion is created by motion so the way you move determines the way you feel”. A lot of focus throughout this experience has been on our Physiology. Everything stems from our physical body. The state of our body determines the state of our emotions. The state of our emotions determine how we respond to things. This response causes a result. I am now fully committed, and I hold myself accountable for my daily rituals and what I need to do to maintain that momentum and Peak State for maximum health, vitality and energy of my mind, body and soul. My morning routine of Priming, Meditating, High Intensity Training and Rebounding is now exactly that. My routine. Repetition is the key to skill and mastery. I feel better educated and empowered to make smarter choices with the food and nourishment I put into my body. The long-term effects on our cells in our bodies when we fill it with chemicals, processed and poor-quality food. Healthy cells are the key to a healthy body. I have taken massive action and implemented the changes. None of which are rocket science! It’s a lot of stuff I perhaps already knew but didn’t take as seriously as I would have liked. Over the last few days, I have been feeling my body completely detoxing and cleansing from being pushed to its limits during the 4-day period. We had 13-14 hour days of full immersion in our minds, bodies and soul, high intensity peak state! And being trained by Wim Hof was the icing on the cake for me. That man is Superhuman!!

I want to experience an extraordinary life. A life full of joy, happiness, success, fulfilment and meaning. That greater sense of purpose. For myself and my little boy. He is my leverage. He is my ‘Why’. If your ‘Why’ is a strong enough and emotional meaning, you will find a way. All it takes is a 2mm shift and everything can change. Dips will happen. Life will happen as I continue this journey. But I know I have it within me to bring myself out of that dip rather quickly and not live there. As Tony says, “If you stay in your head, your dead”.

I have had the ultimate reset in mind, body, and soul. I cannot continue to do what I’ve always done and expect to get a different outcome. I will keep getting what I always got. I have enhanced my emotional home. I have enhanced my habits. I have raised my standards. I have reminded myself of what we occasionally forget – to be present and focus on others. To remain calm and connected. I feel more directed in my mind and my heart. I have been vulnerable and learned to embrace those vulnerabilities but not stay there. I’m not asking “why did this happen to me” but more so exploring what the universe is trying to teach me. Life is happening for me. Not to me. I will not settle. My past does not define my future. I can be anything I want to be. I have learned to dance with my fear.

I am a leader, and not a follower. I have stepped into my power. I am the person that creates the quality of my life. I am capable of more and deserving of more. I have stepped into the real me. I feel alive.

I will love my family unconditionally, but I will choose my peer group moving forward. Proximity is power. What you surround yourself with is what you become. “Good timber does not grow with ease. The stronger the wind, the stronger the trees”. I want a peer group or team that is going to challenge me. That has an expectation as high or higher than my own. Not a peer group of low expectations so I accept wherever I am. One that encourages growth and contribution. “There is a powerful driving force inside every human being that, once unleashed, can make any vision, dream, or desire a reality”.

2020 and 2021 has so far given us more challenges and more uncertainty than ever. I choose to rise above this and not allow or blame the outside world on my current circumstances. This experience has given me the strength, determination, and courage to overcome anything and take my life back.

“Whatever the mind can conceive and believe, the mind can achieve”. I have decided to live in a beautiful state every day no matter what.

I am UNSTOPPABLE.