The Pursuit Of "Well-Being"

Apparently the pursuit of “Well-Being” is one of this years most interesting topics online

What is “well being”?

Perhaps it’s feeling happy, successful, fulfilled?

It’s at least easy to see why well being might be elusive. It’s difficult to define

A feeling?

Let’s stick with an over all sense of wellness. Physical, emotional and spiritual

How do we get there?? I don’t think we do. I think we strive to consistently move closer. Get better, feel better. See evidence of progress toward that goal

Being a man and finding that I resonate with a particular type of man, I want to present a road map of sorts

A Man’s Simple Path To Well Being

- How choices and ownership pave the way

Too much information. Solutions that are far too complex. New habits that take too long and are not enjoyable enough to sustain

How do we nurture balance?? How do we continuously get a bit better every day?

Are you playing around with the idea of some new habits?? Me too. Always

I’ve found that I have a few “musts”

It has to be fast

It has to be free

I have to enjoy it enough to keep doing it consistently over time (free and fast:)

I don’t care about the science. I’m not a doctor and too much detail puts me off

I need to see and/or feel some results emerging in a couple of weeks or I’m gone

I’ve evolved into a habit of picking 5 areas of my life that I want to give love and attention to every day.?

Otherwise I get stuck in one rabbit hole and the other 4 get neglected. This creates a see-saw effect. Focus and neglect. Get behind and catch up…

When I spread the wealth around all 5 for even a few minutes a day…no-one gets neglected. I achieve balance.? A worthy condition for well-being

My 5 key areas

• God
• My 3 kids
• My business (whatever ways I generate income creatively)
• My health
• My baby (my primary love relationship)

Every day I close my eyes for a few minutes and send love/attention/gratitude to each area (this can look as simple or complex as you want)

There are another 5 broader areas of my life that I help clients with using very simple processes and frameworks

• Career
• Money
• Worldview
• Relationships
• Health

Here are my suggestions for new habit ideas

Career

• Invest time and get your story right (Who are you?? What do you do?? Why do you do it?? Why should someone want to speak with you again after your first encounter?)

Money

• Can you define your incoming and outgoing cash flow in specific and are these choices still serving you?? Do a simple brain dump and self reflection exercise (pencil and paper)

Worldview

• The world has flipped upside down and around a few times in the last few years. Have you decided where you stand?? Do you have a few positions on things that are important to you?? Do you have some data and context for the ones you care enough to talk about?? Poke around. Separate truths from opinions and feelings. Drop all judgement

Relationships

• It’s clear now how important some deep friendships are for longevity and happiness. Is it time to re-examine some of these with honest self reflection, forgiveness and gratitude?

Health

• I break this into 2 parts. Physical and mental. I use my criterion listed above for simplicity and sustainability. Most of all I want you to see how much control you have over this and how empowered you are to improve it with some simple suggestions

This is how I frame well being

There’s too much hype, too many tactics and tools and too much unnecessary detail that just intimidates and discourages us

Simplify

Choose

Own

Commit

Simplify…

If this view of well being gives you hope, let’s chat

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Are you as valuable as you could be?