Purpose Rescue - Matthew's Story

From a State of Emergency to Calmness: How Finding Purpose Helped a Workaholic Become a Happier, More Effective Leader ....

If you’re like most people who spend a lot of time at work, your career is probably very demanding.

You might love your job and hate it at the same time too. And the stress … Does it sometimes seem that the entire world is against you?

Perhaps you’ve wondered if there’s something you could be doing differently to find joy in your career life again.

That’s why I’d like introduce you to Matthew. He asked himself that very question and found a very satisfying answer that changed everything for the better.

Matthew contacted me because his life wasn′t that much fun anyone. “Where had it all gone wrong?” he asked himself rhetorically. Matthew felt as if he was on an endless treadmill and going nowhere.

He had no trouble setting goals and targets, but the satisfaction of reaching them was always overshadowed by some new crisis he had to deal with. And it was all beginning to take a toll on his health. 

In fact, when I first spoke to Matthew on Skype I thought he was in the A&E department and that he was calling to cancel his career consultancy session. That’s because he was sitting in a black chair and was having his blood pressure taken. He wasn′t actually in the A&E department, though. Instead he was at home taking his blood pressure on his portable machine because he had a few minutes to spare. It just seemed crazy.

Matthew was an intelligent and hardworking individual and what happened to him could happen to anyone. He didn′t know how to get off the treadmill without falling or injuring himself and he was scared.

He hadn′t intended for his life to get out of control or to lead a crazy lifestyle but this is where he was now. He was literally in crisis mode all the time. Matthew was working 60+ hours per week, his marriage was under pressure, he was constantly breaking his promises or making excuses and he was drinking far too much. He felt tired and unsupported and his temper was triggered by smaller and smaller things. He knew he was a workaholic but didn’t know how to change or if it was possible to change before he burned out.

The purpose work helped Matthew to realise that he had sold his SOUL to the company and that he was in danger of sabotaging his success. He felt great feelings of shame and humiliation as he had many people hidden in his personal dungeon. Matthew was hungry for success, so he was prone to back-stab people who threatened to stop his advances. 

But for his family, Matthew played the victim role to restore his strength from heavy work battles and to gain the love, support and admiration he desperately needed. His family had no idea that Matthew was a ruthless and competitive person at work – business was business and his kinder human side was kept well hidden. Matthew was in conflict and disconnected from his true self. He felt a lot of internal pain and regret.

The work out of the pain pit involved going through his old story and looking deeply at himself. The personality profile helped Matthew to recognise his fears and inner needs and what was going on to bring about past situations. 

Matthew needed a self-care routine and a recovery period to get back on track. Attention was paid to the types of things that triggered old feelings and wounds so he could choose a different thought pattern and behaviour. The purpose work helped re-define Matthew′s vision for his new way of being and it also made things simpler. He kicked his work adrenaline habit and started to feel more comfortable with who he truly was. 

He distanced himself from things that triggered him in the past and made an effort to create a new fan club he could turn to in times of crisis or weakness. He learned to talk from his heart rather than his ego. That’s when he began to acknowledge people around him and put his trust in them. Matthew was less fearful of competition or failure. He also cleaned up his own behaviour and stopped making unpleasant jokes or putting other people down. He realised that building his success was not about knocking or pushing other people out of the way. 

Through the self-realization work we did, he started to feel more confident in himself and believe in his own vision. He freely shared his big ideas and plans with other people and bullishly led the way forward. His confidence and intuition in turn fuelled and took pressure off his subordinates. They found it easier to trust and follow Matthew′s leadership now. 

Matthew felt time slowed down for him as he become focused. He didn′t always like the changes he had to make. But as he made them, he felt fresher and calmer. He ended up doing far less but achieving far more. But the biggest achievement of all was that Matthew actually started to like himself a lot more through this work.

It was a pathway which involved great self-assessment, acknowledgement and reflection. A massive clean-up operation took place so the truth could be told and lived for the benefit of all concerned.

And that’s how Matthew went from hating himself to the opposite. He became much more productive without antagonising others and generating endless stress everywhere he went.

All it took was following a proven method designed to help him rediscover his sense of purpose.

So if you’re a workaholic who feels burned out and wondering if life is really meant to be this way, order your copy Find Your Purpose & Light Up Your Life by clicking here.

Sarah Berry′s latest eBook might be just the solution to putting PURPOSE back into your life – even if you didn’t know there was a problem until you read Matthew’s story.

Go ahead and read Find Your Purpose & Light Up Your Life right now. You’ll discover the step by step process Matthew followed to discover genuine happiness. You’ll have a complete solution and it might make every difference in how you perceive your job, your career and your life.

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