The Psychology of Purpose: Why We Thrive When Others Succeed - ARTICLE 121
Shivananda Salgame
Social Entrepreneur | Mentor | Design Thinking Practitioner | Driving Innovation for Social Impact
Understanding Human Thinking Through Science
By nature, humans are social beings. Our sense of purpose and fulfillment often intertwines with the success and struggles of others. While some derive motivation from witnessing others fail—a phenomenon often linked to schadenfreude (pleasure derived from another’s misfortune)—a more profound and sustainable sense of purpose emerges when we uplift and celebrate the success of others. But why does this happen?
The Science Behind Human Thinking
1. The Role of Mirror Neurons: Empathy and Connection
Neuroscientific research reveals the presence of mirror neurons, which fire both when we perform an action and when we observe someone else performing it. These neurons contribute to empathy, emotional connection, and collective joy, making us feel genuinely happy when others succeed.
2. The Dopamine Effect: Shared Success Feels Good
When we achieve something, our brain releases dopamine, the “reward chemical”, reinforcing positive behavior. Interestingly, studies indicate that witnessing or supporting someone else's success can also trigger dopamine release, creating a vicarious sense of accomplishment. This is why mentoring, coaching, or simply cheering for someone else feels fulfilling.
3. The Tribal Mindset: Evolutionary Cooperation Over Competition
Humans evolved in communities where cooperation was essential for survival. While competition exists, our brains are wired to function best in collaborative, mutually beneficial environments. Celebrating others’ success strengthens social bonds and collective resilience, essential for long-term growth and harmony.
4. The Contrast Effect: Why Some Find Joy in Others’ Failure
On the flip side, the human brain also engages in downward social comparison, where individuals may feel a fleeting boost in self-worth by seeing others fail. This is linked to insecurities and competitive instincts but often leads to short-term gratification rather than long-term fulfillment.
Why True Purpose Comes from Uplifting Others
A sense of purpose is deeply rooted in meaningful relationships and positive impact. When we contribute to others' success, we feel valued, connected, and empowered. This leads to:
The Choice Between Scarcity and Abundance Thinking
The way we perceive others' success—either as a threat or an inspiration—defines our mindset. Scarcity thinking sees success as limited, fueling jealousy and insecurity. Abundance thinking recognizes that success is not a zero-sum game, leading to collaboration, growth, and a genuine sense of purpose.
True fulfillment comes not from watching others fail but from being a part of their success story.
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