PSYCHOLOGY OF LOVE

WHAT IS LOVE? DEFINING LOVE-

People?have?different?comprehensions?and?perspectives?regarding?the?complex feeling of love,Science,?gospel,?muses, and individualities have all explored and been interested in it throughout history.As a?result, it's?delicate?to?define?love,?leading?to?colourful?perspectives?on this?feeling. It's?critical?to?know?that?love?is neither a static?emotion?nor a?singular?reality.

The various forms of it are as follows:?

1.PASSIONATE LOVE:

It's a?strong?desire?for togetherness with someone?else. This?kind?of?love?makes a person idealise another?individual?erotically with the?possibility?that the?emotion?will?noway?disappear.This?kind?of?universal?love?makes it?easier?for?individuals?to?find?potential?life?mates.( Fischer, 1992, 2004; Jankowiak & Paladino, 2008).

2.ROMANTIC LOVE, ALSO KNOWN AS COMFORT LOVE:

This?kind?of?love?is characterised by?passions?of?fellowship,?understanding, and?concern?for the?welfare?of the?other?person.

?3. PLATONIC LOVE:

It's a?kind?of?love?in which?romantic?or sexual?elements?are entirely?absent?or?have?been?repressed,?still?it includes?further?than?simply?friendly?passions. Platonic?love,?named?after the Greek?champion?Pluto, includes?progressing?from sexual?magnet?to?individual?bodies?to?soul?magnet?to,?eventually,?union?with the?verity?through?being?decreasingly?close?to?wisdom?and?genuine?beauty.

4.COMPANIONATE LOVE:

It?is characterised by??attachment?and??affection. It consists of?respect,?honesty, and?trust.?Multiple?individualities?in one's?life,?including?family?members,?close?friends,?romantic?mates etc., may?go?through it.

WHAT IS PSYCHOLOGY OF LOVE?

Since the?beginning, psychologists?have?been?interested in the?issue?of?love, which has?led?to the?development?of?multitudinous?propositions.?Love?is a?really?old?emotion,?according?to Fischer.Humans?developed?the?emotion?of?love?as a survival?medium?and to?control?aspects?of?reproduction.?proof?from?studies?by Harlow and Zimmerman ( 1959) and Bowlby ( 1982) suggests that?love?increases the?probability?of survival. Their?exploration?shows that our survival is?increased?by our?attachment?to?other?people.

ATTACHMENT STYLES AND THEIR INFLUENCE ON QUALITY OF RELATIONSHIPS:-

Relationship?satisfaction?is?influenced?by?attachment?patterns?as?well?as the?fundamental?elements?of?closeness,?passion,and?commitment.?Multiple? exploration studies?have?set up?that?attachment?may?predict?whether a?relationship?will?be?successful?or?failure. There are three main?orders?of?attachments-

1.SECURE ATTACHMENT is a?type?of?attachment?wherein a person has a?secure?and?stable?attachment,is?more?likely?to?have?stronger?trust,?commitment,?closeness, better?communication?skills,?further?self-?confidence, and a readiness to?self-?expose?in?associations.

2.ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT is a type of attachment wherein?individualities?have?lesser?conflict?in their?connections?on a?regular?base?and?have?inferior?coping?mechanisms.

3.AVOIDANT ATTACHMENT is a?type?of?attachment?which is characterised by?being?emotionally detached,?feeling?less?satisfied?in a?relationship, and?distrusting?the?mate.

Research?by Hazan and Shaver ,(1987)?claimed?that?individual?differences?in?attachment?are the?prototypes, or?working?models?of?social?relation?that?organise?one's?romantic?relations?subsequently?in?life. They?did?this by?reasoning?the?exploration?on?child- caregiver?attachment?to?close?relationships?in?adulthood.

An?emotional?connection?to another person is?called?attachment. Bowlby?was?of the?opinion?that a?child's?early?connections?and?attachments?with its?caretakers?have?a?profound?effect?that continues throughout?life.'The?child's?chances?of survival are?accelerated?by?being?close?to the?mother' he claimed.According to Bowlby,'?Children?who stayed?close?to an?attachment?figure?were?more?likely?to?get?warmth?and?safety?during?childhood,?making?them?more?likely?to?develop?to?maturity, and?evolving?and?preserving? intimate?connections?latterly?in?life.?More?authentic?connections?result?from?secure? attachments?in?youth, whereas?insecure?and?anxious?attachments?make?it?delicate?to?develop?and sustain connections in adulthood.

THEORIES OF LOVE:-

1.STERNBERG'S TRIANGULAR THEORY OF LOVE:-??

'Intimacy, passion, and commitment are the three elements of a healthy relationship and the fundamental building blocks of achieving complete love', according to Sternberg's triangular theory of love.

• INTIMACY is characterised as a?sense?of?closeness, togetherness, and?relating?with a?romantic?mate.
• PASSION includes the?impulses?that?affect?romance.Physical?attraction, and sexual?conduct?are all?part?of?passion..
• COMMITMENT is the realisation that one loves another person and is?prepared?to?maintain?that?love, which is a?long-?term?choice.

Sternberg's 7 TYPES OF LOVE include-

• FRIENDSHIP-

This?kind?of?love?exists when the?intimacy?or like?element?is there but the?passion?or?commitment?in the?romantic?sense?is not.?Friendship?love?may?be?the?root?of?other?types?of?love.

• INFATUATION-

?is?illustrated?by?passions?of?lust?and?physical?passion?without?liking?or commitment.There hasn't?been?enough?time?for a?profound?feeling?of?closeness,?romantic?love, or?consummate?love?to?grow. These might?ultimately?show?up after the?infatuation?phase. There may?be?a?lot?of?original?passion.

• EMPTY LOVE-

Empty?love?is a?commitment?that lacks?closeness?or?passion.?occasionally?a?genuine?love?becomes?hollow. The?reverse?is?also?conceivable. An?arranged?marriage, for?example, can?start?off with?nothing?but?latterly?grow?into a?different?type?of?love.

• ROMANTIC LOVE-

Romantic?love?emotionally?binds?people via?proximity?and a?sense?of desire.In this?type?of?relationship, the?couples'?deep?relations?permit?them to?gather?intimate?data?about one another.

• COMPANIONATE LOVE-

This?type?of?love?is?intimate?but not passionate. The?closeness?or?fondness?and?commitment?factors?of the triangle are?included. It's?stronger?than?fellowship?since there's a?long-?term?commitment?but?low?to no sexual?desire. This?sort?of?love?is?common?in?relationships?where the?passion?has?vanished?but the?couple?still?shares an?intimate?bond?or?complete?affection. It's?valid?to?compare?this to the?affection?expressed?by?veritably?close?musketeers?and?family?members..

• FATUOUS LOVE-

?This?type?of?love?is?marked?by?love,?devotedness,?fondness,?fidelity, and?desire?but lacks?closeness?or?liking. Fatuous?love?can?be?linked?by?commitment?motivated by?desire?rather?than the?stifling?goods?of intimacy.When others?witness?this, they?constantly?wonder how the two?beings?could?have?been?so?impulsive. These?connections,?nevertheless,?generally?fail.

• CONSUMMATE LOVE-

Consummate?love?consists of all three?factors?and is the most?comprehensive?sort?of love.It represents the?ideal?cooperation. When a?couple?is in this?kind?of?love, they can not?envision?themselves with anyone?differently.?likewise,?numerous?find?it?tough?to?picture?their own?happiness?without their?ladies. They're?suitable?to?overcome?their?differences?and?work?together?to?break ?problems.

2.COLOUR WHEEL THEORY OF LOVE

Developed by John Alan Lee, this proposition presents six types of love-

1. EROS-which is most?constantly?shown?in Hollywood?pictures. It's?also?appertained?to as"?love?at?first?sight" and is?grounded?on" chemistry" and a?strong?emotional?or?physical?relation
2. LUDOS-People who?view?love?as a?game?and?set?to"?win" as?numerous?mates?as they may?utilize?this?style.?connections?of this?type?tend to?be?short lived?because the?stress?is on?having?fun?in the?moment.
3. STORGE-Rather?than?being?fueled by?passion, this?type?of?love?steadily develops from?fellowship?and is?concentrated?more?on?participated?interests?and a?commitment?to one another.
4. PRAGMA-This?romantic?style?is?really?practical?and?applicable.?similar individualities?look?for?mates?that they can?share?aspirations?with and?approach?their?relationship?in a"?business-?suchlike"?manner.
5. MANIA - It results from a lack of self-confidence. Individuals in this type have a need to be loved by a spouse. Such lovers frequently exhibit extreme possessiveness and jealousy.
6. AGAPE – ?This?sort?of?love?involves a person?bestowing?anything?over?for their?lover. It depends on an unbreakable?dedication, unwavering?faithfulness?and an?everlasting, selfless?love.

THE ROLE OF BRAIN IN LOVE-

According?to?study, when people?speak?about their?loved?ones, the?primitive?brain?areas?connected?with?love?light?up during?brain scans.According to a Harvard?study, when a person falls in?love,?some?chemicals are?unleashed?in the?brain,?performing?in a?variety?of?physical?and?emotional?responses?similar?as sweaty?palms,?racing?hearts,?feelings?of?passion?and?anxiety, and?so?on. Oxytocin and vasopressin are two?further?chemicals?present. Oxytocin, the?love?hormone, helps?people?in a?relationship?to?feel?pleasure,?tranquillity, and?security.Vasopressin includes long-?term?relationship-?related?commitments. Love's?positive?passions?kill?the?brain?circuits?responsible?for?displeasing?feelings?like?fear?and?critique?in?society.

THE SURPRISING HEALTH BENEFITS OF LOVE INCLUDE-

1.Increased life expectancy-According?to?exploration,?individualities?who?have?healthy?connections?live?longer and are less?likely?to?get?conditions?similar?as?cancer, pneumonia, and?heart?attacks.

2.Maintaining a healthy heart- Studies?show?that?individualities?in?happy,?healthy?marriages?are less?likely?to?suffer?from cardiovascular?complaint?than people in?poisonous?connections?or who are?constantly?lonely.

3.Lowers blood pressure- Happily?wedded?couples?have?lower?blood?pressure?situations?than?unhappy?wedded?couples?or those who are?unmarried.?So, when you are with someone you?care?about, that?light,?flickering?feeling?in your?heart?could?be?your?blood?pressure?lowering.

4.Reducing Depression- Finding?true?love, marrying, and?preserving?healthy?connections?and?fellowship?have?all?been?shown?to?help?both?men?and?women?feel?less?lonely?and?unhappy?while?also?adding?their?sense?of?belonging?and?gratification.

5.Decreased Anxiety-According?to MRI?scans, people in?strong,?long-?term?connections?have?advanced?exertion?and activation in the?reward-?related?region?of the?brain?and?dropped?activation in the?anxiety-?related?region.

6.Reduced Stress Situations-?When you?have?a?partner?or?close?confidant?to?help?you through?grueling?situations?and?unpleasing?feelings, you're less?likely?to?feel?terrified?since?strong?ties?frequently?give?protection and support.

7.Advanced Sleep-Because?loving?connections?lower?stress, you're?more?likely?to?get?a?good?night's?sleep?and?awaken?up?feeling?recharged.?Pressures?are?dropped?when you?feel?supported?and?loved, and?exploration?shows that?happy?wedded?partners?are 10 percent ?more?likely?to?sleep?peacefully.

CONCLUSION-

Love?with all of its?complications?and?intricacies, remains an?important?element?of the?mortal?experience. Its?cerebral?foundations?illuminate?the?depth?of our?feelings,?provocations?and interpersonal?connections. By?understanding?the psychology of?love, we may?handle?the?complications?of our?connections,?make?stronger?unions?and?live?happier?lives. It's?important?to?cherish?the?power?of?love?and?develop its presence in our lives as we seek to unravel the mysteries of the heart.

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This article was written and shared as a part of my internships at Krsh Welfare Foundation

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