It Pisses me off that...

*Warning - This post is a bit more high flame than usual. ??

Recently I was inspired by an idea.?

It's powerful to connect with what you want. What?you really, REALLY want!

But what about what gets in the way.

What's getting in the way of your joy?

What's getting in the way of my joy?

I realised that I don't tend to get frustrated, angry or pissed off. I don't allow that energy in. I keep it out to live in positive, high energy.?

But if I don't allow that energy in, what else am I keeping out?

Then it came to me...

What if I write a list of things that piss me off and allow myself to live into that energy for a change?!

And that's what I've done.

(I plan to write 100 things, but as of right now I'm up to 56.)

It felt really edgy to write.

It's feels even edgier to share!?

But I'm leaning into that because I want to walk my talk.

I've not written this to provoke, offend, hurt, belittle or judge you or anyone else.

I've written this for one person and one person only.?

Me.

To provoke myself and live into pissed off, frustrated energy for the first time.

To notice what I notice around the barriers I put in my own way.

However,?I am?sharing it to provoke your thinking.

That's what a great coach does.?

We serve, not please.

On reading this, I invite you to be curious.?

To notice your thoughts.

To feel something.

To discover a new perspective and learning something.

To get uncomfortable.

And sit with that.

After all, progress and your dreams do not live in your comfort zone!

DO NOT LISTEN FOR AGREEMENT OR DISAGREEMENT (But be open to noticing it)!

Listen for insight.

Whatever you notice yourself think or feel, please don't judge yourself (or me). Be kind.

Before you continue, pause.?

Take a moment to breath.?

Allow yourself to get present and get curious.

Ready? Here we go...

It P!sses me off that...(1-56)

1! I'm writing this list in the first place!

2! SO many amazing, powerful people and coaches hide their gifts because of fear or excuses to get in their own way!

3! I've been hiding & getting in my own way!

4! I've spent so much time surviving, rather than thriving!

5! Fear robs so many of the opportunity to use their gifts and be great!

6! So many people don't invest themselves, in their leadership and their dreams!

7! So many "leaders" act from a place of fear!

8! It's been the longest f@￡%ing winter EVER!

9! COVID & lockdown is even a thing!

10! People don't "get" coaching, don't understand the incredible power & value of having somebody truly see you, feel you, believe in you, your dreams and limitless potential!

11! I've been playing the "good, but could do better" game my whole life!

12! I've played it safe out of fear of failure & ultimately ending up on my own!

13! I've played small, because then I would only fail small!

14! By playing small I'm giving clients and people around me permission to play small too!

15! People live out their whole lives without discovering a true sense of purpose!

16! People don't know what they REALLY want!

17! People know what they really want, but they don't ask for it, fight for it or go out and f*$&ing make it happen!

18! People aren't taught the profound, high level skills of deep listening, holding space, asking powerful questions, being courageous & curious!

19! People aren't taught how to communicate with themselves, with each other, powerfully!

20! People aren't taught how to BE human!

21! Being a dreamer is a bad thing!

22! Being selfish is negative!

23! People have to suffer for the comfort of others!

24! I haven't allowed myself to believe in all the positive, kind, amazing things people have had to say about me over the years!

25! So many people in leadership roles don't know how to/haven't been given the tools to lead!

26! Poverty still exists!

27! People feel like and choose to believe they never have enough time!

28! I don't have a full coaching practise right now filled with dream clients!

29! I alone have been keeping my people out!

30! After 2 years of hard work, the lawn in my back garden is still patchy as f*$&!

31! I've still not reached a point where I fully know who my people & dream clients are and what my mission is!

32! I feel like Chandler Bing half the time because my friends and family don't "get" what it is I do!

33! People don't know who they really are and what they are capable of!

34! People don't trust themselves enough to take risks!

35! We don't start with trust & the belief in the positive intentions of others!

36! People are quick to judge!

37! I feel lonely & unsupported at times (it can be really lonely giving your all in service of others)!

38! I'm solely responsible for feeling that way & I'm keeping out the very thing I really want - the understanding, support and love of family & friends!

39! It was f*￡%ing snowing the other week! Seriously, it's MAY!!?

40! Despite what I said, this still may offend or hurt someone!

41! Deep down I care what other people think, despite telling myself otherwise!

42! No one may actually give a sh!t about this!?

43! It's so difficult writing a 100 things on this list!

44! I feel guilty writing about all the things I want (you'll see my "I want..." list soon).

45! A little voice used to tell me I will do great things & I stopped believing it.

46! I'm not allowed to hug people yet!

47! I didn't think to link Wannabe by the Spice Girls to this article originally!

48! People get trapped in a loop of the same issues and don't deal with them!

49! People avoid uncomfortable truths!

50! I haven't been modelling courage to our community!

51! I haven't been playing FULL OUT!

52! We haven't modelled playing full out with our community and as a result we've given them permission to play it safe.

53! We haven't fully committed to playing a bigger game yet!

54! People judge themselves and others!

55! We aren't all being our wonderful authentic selves!

56! I had to smash my face in to experience how loved and supported I am (see picture below from May 15th 2021)!

This was fun to do. Like trying on a new skin for a change.?

How was it for you??

Feeling uncomfortable?

If so, good. Lean into that.

What do you notice?

What are you learning?

What would be on your list?

What emotion do you find challenging that you could step into by writing a list?

And how can you use that energy as a positive force for good to grow yourself and your impact?

To be continued...x

p.s. I'm healing up nicely after my fall. I was super fortunate that the damage wasn't more severe! I'm super grateful for all the love and support I've had. ?? This was a painful, yet powerful way for the universe to show me how incredibly well supported I am! ??

If you're TIRED of being pulled in every direction, expected to solve peoples problems and have all the answers. If you're SICK of yes people, you don't have someone to REALLY listen to you and challenge your thinking. If you're FRUSTRATED you have no space to think, you've hit a ceiling in your ability to grow your business (and yourself), you're working in your business, not on your business... Let's Dance (Click this link ??)!