Professional Loneliness - Causes and Strategies
Richard Galbraith
Risk Actuary | Systemic Coach | People Focused | Strategy | Board Advisory | Member Institute of Board Members
People, people everywhere, so why am I so lonely?
In 1914, Sir Ernest Shackleton led the failed Antarctic Expedition, and is well known for saying that “Loneliness is the penalty of leadership”.
I agree with Sir Shackleton, but I don’t think loneliness only affects leaders. I think it impacts all of us at some point.? Professional loneliness.?
I remember a point in my career several years ago, and maybe one of the reasons I’ve pivoted my career to leadership development and coaching, that I felt so lonely on all aspects of my roles, saying to a friend ‘how do I stay sane when everyone around me is telling me I’m wrong, even when I’m not’. ?
While you may immediately challenge me and ask me, “were you wrong?”, what I’ve retrospectively realised is that the behaviours around me were completely incongruous and misaligned with my own.?
A more recent project I worked on gave me the opportunity to speak to well over 100 people in the course of events.? What I found at the end of this period, I was worn down, and again at one of the loneliest points in my career.? I’ve reflected many times over the past month, and on past years, on why this was and concluded on some of the following causes:
Always on
Fear of vulnerability
Remote working/working alone
Not sharing a common vision
Imposter Syndrome
Not knowing who to trust or share my fears with
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We feel loneliness when we feel disconnected, not belonging or feeling excluded.? Researching this further, studies have also shown that loneliness can stem from:
·?????? Doing independent roles in a small team
·?????? Poor relationships with colleagues or manager
·?????? The culture or behaviours in the company being incongruous to your own beliefs
·?????? Not feeling noticed at work?
Brene Brown, the American professor and author, has said about loneliness “When we feel isolated, disconnected, and lonely, we try to protect ourselves. In that mode, we want to connect, but our brain is attempting to override connection with self-protection. That means less empathy, more defensiveness, more numbing, and less sleeping.”?
This isn’t good for any of us and can have massive impacts on our physical and mental health.
What can we do about this and recognise when we, or our teams are struggling?
I’m still lonely at times while i’m building my practice, but I wouldn't change a thing. What I am doing is actively looking for groups to be part of, to share ideas, to challenge each other. I’m finding LinkedIn a great outlet for this, and its rewarding to know that many of you are telling me you are engaging with my LinkedIn thoughts and find it useful.?
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5 个月Back when I was in education, I would say that teaching can be a lonely profession. And then when I moved into new roles, I realized that you can feel isolated in any role. It's so important for leaders to create an open, collaborative environment where people genuinely care about one another. Thank you for sharing, Richard Galbraith!
Excelllent Richard.