The Problem with Always Wanting More
Joan Sotkin
Founder & CEO at Prosperity Place, Inc | Money & Emotions Expert | Money & Energy Activator (Ask me what that means) |
Years ago, I had a client who had a net worth of $5 million. He wanted to be coached so that he could build his net worth to $10 million because he believed that with $10 million, he would feel happy, satisfied, and secure.
I explained to him that if he didn’t feel happy, satisfied, and secure with $5 million, chances were that no matter how much money he had he would feel exactly as he did at that moment.
I suggested we work on helping him develop a satisfaction habit. That wasn't what he wanted to hear. He just wanted $10 million.
In contrast, I had a conversation with a friend of mine who had just returned from Tibet. He described the intense poverty of the people he saw who were happy and generally satisfied with their lives despite lacking what you and I would consider essentials.
In the United States, we’re taught to always want more.
Ads for cars, electronic devices, and luxury trips permeate the airwaves – along with endless commercials for antidepressants, pain medications, and a host of other remedies for illnesses often caused by stress.
More Money Won't Fix It
I often hear, “If only I had more money, everything would be okay and I could feel happy, satisfied, and secure."
After talking to dozens of financial advisors and people who are considered to be in the 1%, it's clear that money doesn't automatically create happiness, satisfaction, or feelings of security.
As often occurs, the more people acquire, the more they fear losing what they have.
In an interview, Warren Buffett was asked how he defines wealth. He answered that he measures wealth by how much love people have in their lives. He said he knows a lot of rich people who aren't wealthy because they're very alone.
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Develop a Satisfaction Habit
People are often afraid to be satisfied with what they have because they fear that if they’re okay with what they have, they’ll be stuck where they are.
But here's the paradox: the more satisfied you are with what you have the more likely you are to generate more of what will allow you to feel happy, satisfied, and secure.
With that comes inner peace.
In my experience, once people develop a satisfaction habit, they often feel more relaxed and comfortable with who they are and their place in the world.
Here Are Some Suggestions
Giving up a wanting-more habit requires conscious effort and intention.
If you think you need more money, you probably need more people because money always comes from people. The craving for money is often a symptom of aloneness.
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11 个月Thanks for this. It comes at a time when I really need to consider the blessings I have in my life -- both people and things. I love your satisfaction habit.
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11 个月Well said, Joan Sotkin!
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11 个月Great tip: sit with yourself for 5 minutes. In it!
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11 个月The best definition I ever heard of "enough" is "just a little bit more!" I love the idea of a satisfaction habit, to make that my default rather than more more.