Proactive Confrontation

In a previous article, we discussed the amygdala and its role in feeling psychologically safe and why this matters. We offered tools like meditation, inner child work, and breathwork to help calm the amygdala and reconnect to our higher brain functions.

Today, I want to introduce another powerful tool for confrontation and conflict: Proactive Confrontation.

This Kabbalistic tool, which I learned several years ago, involves pausing before engaging in any potentially confrontational conversation and asking ourselves, “Is this person available to receive what I am about to say right now?”

Steps to Proactive Confrontation:

1. Pause: Before initiating the conversation, take a moment to stop and gather your thoughts.

2. Assess: Ask yourself if the other person is open to hearing what you need to say. If the answer is no, wait for a better time.

3. Timing: If the timing isn't right, be patient. Most personal and professional issues can be resolved by waiting for a more appropriate moment.

4. Visualize: If it seems like the right time, visualize the conversation. Imagine how you would like it to go if everything went perfectly.

5. Regulate: Use a form of breathing exercise to regulate your nervous system for one minute. Then, proceed with the call or meeting.

By following these five steps, you can help mitigate conflicts and potential upsets. This approach enables you to use your full capacity to have conversations that yield the results you desire.

At OptiMatch, we believe in providing tools that foster psychological safety and improve communication. Proactive Confrontation is just one of the many ways you can enhance your interactions and create more meaningful connections.

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