Privilege,?Identity?and?Otherness

Let’s talk "PROFESSIONALISM,"?

It is is an opinion or perception?

One that can hold so many talented diverse women back from their ultimate goals due to fear of judgement or feelings of shame about difference.

In my career there has always been some degree of commentary which has resulted in lost opportunities or conforming to excel.

Trying to fit in or adopt 'Professionalism'

31% of women surveyed had hidden or delayed wearing an afro or dreadlocks at work.

I am still guilty on occasions of the “tuck and hide” myself.

The years of programming to believe that what I look like directly equates to what I can achieve (or my worth) is not easy to unlearn!

To be honest, it is quite painful to acknowledge otherness!

I have spent over 30 years trying to kill off parts of myself that actually make me unique ??

When we stop trying to be a cookie cutter versions of ourselves or what society deems appropriate, we stand out and become our highest selves.

I recently got to share this perspective with over 700 c-suite leaders, last week exploring creating a culture of belonging on the workplace wellbeing agenda

"Learning to say people's names correctly is just one of simplest ways to create a culture of belonging!"

Authentic, genuine and real is actually our true greatness!

Superficial judgement is toxic!?

I believe the current perception of 'Professionalism' perpetuates systems and cultures that are oppressive and destroy difference.

Aboud & Piaget explore the development stages of children to understand feelings of shame and how as early as 7 -8 years old we internalise difference.

Oppression and resistance show up in all shapes and sizes, not just connected to race or colour. Privilege is also being educated, middle class and speaking english.

If embracing your difference has limited your prospects, then perhaps you’ve been knocking at the wrong door for too long?

Kinship is a Safe Space for Diverse Women. The first Friday of each month. This month we will explore how to stand out & connect with your true greatness?

Join us for Kinship here

Black History Month

?????????????? ???????????? came to the UK from Jamaica in the early 50’s. Sold the dream of a better life, with greater opportunities! Let’s never underestimate kindness ??

Today, I still get to stand on his shoulders and celebrate him everyday. Legacy and heritage are not just limited to October! Check it out here

Better Mental Health - UK's Top 15 Health Podcast

Tobi?Oredein?started her career as a journalist. Founder of?Black Ballard. We are exploring raising investment as a black female entrepreneur in the black women leading & winning series.

The everyday conversation to inspire better mental health. UK's Top 15 Health Podcast. Listen here

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PS If any of these issues have impacted you personally and you would like to explore how you can change your own narrative on otherness to discover you unique voice. Connect?here

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